Completly Batshit but still

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My friends have gone camping tonight, with the kids that are moving up schools. Of course they should, and I'm not even sure if they know and even if they did I don't think they should say anything nor give me thought, I don't need their pity and plus life is for the living. But like a wave it has taken the feet from under me, had my child lived I would be there. The what ifs are close tonight. The living and the living with combined.

So sorry op🌺🌺🌺

Very sorry

I had friends whose child died and I wonder if your friends are afraid of offending you? Was it recent?

For me I imagined my friends wouldn't want to be reminded of what their child would have been. As it turned out they were entirely fixed on the the age the DC was when they died. Always eight years old.

What I did discover, and especially after my DH died is that all reminders are welcomed, you want to talk, remember and be remembered.

echt I'm sorry to hear about your husband, reminders are welcomed, you want him to live on.

Unlike your friend my child has grown up in the passing years, ie I think of them as the age they would be now, not the age when they died.

It is no reflection at all on my friends and tbh I would not even expect it to cross their minds and thats not because they don't care but because life is for the living. I'm usually fine just every now and then a wave gets me, the what ifs. I just needed somewhere to say it, thank you all for the they do mean a lot.