What do you do? Neonatal loss in family

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The daughter and SIL of our friend and neighbour have tragically lost their baby at birth. All the family are devastated. We dont know the young couple very well but know the grandparents. My partner is an old school friend of our male neighbour. My partner spoke to him briefly on the phone yesterday and expressed our sorrow.
Do we send a card and /or flowers to our neighbours? I'm so sorry if this sounds clunky or awkward. We are really unsure what is the right thing here and no one else around us seems sure either. I think because we don't really know the young couple, more the grandparents. Advice appreciated x

Sorry I don't understand what their relationship is to you?

My first baby was stillborn and we really appreciated the kindness and acknowledgment of our loss but I'm wondering how well you know the couple and whether it would be better to give flowers and a card to the relatives you do know.

But also they may have lots of flowers and people tend to run out if vases.

If you know the name of their child, use it in the card.

Hi sorry for confusing you. We font know the young couple who are parents well. We do know their parents , the grandparents. I guess we are asking if flowers and cards are appropriate to send to grandparents ?

I would. I think it could help them for other people to acknowledge and remember their loss.

I would absolutely send a card and flowers as they have lost their grandchild

If I read this correctly - you are saying that your friends have lost a newborn grandchild? Yes you can send them a card/bereavement support.

I would send something to the grandparents. They'll be hurting too. While it would be weird to have friends of their DD and DIL send something to them instead of the DD and DIL, it would be very kind of you to acknowledge their loss given you relationship.

I would send some flowers. I would also make sure to mention on the card that you are sorry for their daughter and son in law's loss. My MIL was offered loads of sympathy when we lost our baby and unfortunately it grated on me when it was all about her (she made it so). She didn't even come to the funeral though because, "Oh no. I don't like that kind of stuff! It's depressing!"
So her own son had no family support except from me and mine.

Thank you everyone. That's helpful advice and suggestions and I'll take it on board. Will send a card and flowers today x

When our daughter died at just a week old my mum was very touched by those who sent her cards and flowers.

Sometimes the grandparents are overlooked and they feel the pain and loss so strongly.

Yes I agree send to the grandparents snd they can pass on your thoughts to the parents as well.

💞thank you