Dad died suddenly and unexpectedly

[DevestatedDaughter]

My darling Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly a few months ago. He was young, healthy and very fit (athletic). He had a brain haemorrhage.
How did a young athletic man have a brain haemorrhage? I don’t understand, can anyone out there who understands these things help me wrap my head around how this happened to him?
Thanks in advance from a heartbroken girl 💔

So sorry to hear this. My own DF died suddenly 25 years ago and we've always seen life as a definite before and after. I was full of rage seeing all the old people tottering around when he who was so fit was gone. Do you have any siblings? Are you supporting each other?

@Yondergoat yes we are a close knit family and supporting each other. It just seems so wrong that this happened, I don’t understand how a healthy person can just be gone.
Sorry that you have been through a similar situation, it really sucks doesn’t it. Do you mind me asking how long it took you to feel happy again?

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. It is such a shock isn't it?

My DF died at 46 while on a bike ride. He was a very fit marathon runner so it was very unexpected.

Apparently there is something called SADS or Sudden Adult Death Syndrome, which is very vague.

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Hiya OP. I'm so sorry for your loss and that of all the other posters.

I lost my dad suddenly 3 weeks ago after a stroke and a short hospital stay. I'm really not handling it very well. I've seen people come back to work a couple of days after losing a parent and seem fine - I don't understand why I'm struggling so much.

Thank you all for your replies and I’m sending my love to all of you having been through similar experiences.

@catinboots21 I am also not fine. I returned to work because I thought I should but you are not alone in your struggling.

@Nottoday1 thank you for the offer, I will pm you later. Will be good to talk to someone who understands xx

I'm so sorry OP. I had to double-check I wasn't reading my own post as I read your opening sentences.

I lost my Dad suddenly and unexpectedly in March. He was extremely fit and active, ate healthily, never smoked, never sat still. Zero indication of the sudden heart failure that took him. I was eating dinner with him and mum less than 12 hours before. I don't live far away and arrived to a string of ambulances but it was too late.

It's just awful isn't it? How old was your Dad? I completely understand how wrong it feels and the unfairness.

Dad was a keen cyclist - weekend racing and general errands around town the rest of the time. Any time I see a male cyclist in lycra or an older guy on a bike wearing a dark blue jacket I do a double take and my heart breaks once more with the realisation. Not just cycling, so many other things of course

I agree with the definite before/after.