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Dad passed away last night

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mummydoit · 22/11/2007 10:01

Dad lost his five year battle with cancer last night. He's been deteriorating since June and really suffered in the past few weeks. I'm feeling quite calm about it because we've been expecting it and it's a relief that he's not suffering any more and the end was very peaceful. It just seems so hard to believe I'll never see or speak to him again. He was only 65, still young really.

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Tortington · 22/11/2007 22:42

my thoughts are with you - i am sorry for your loss.

cheritongirl · 22/11/2007 22:43

thinking of you mummydoit xxx

MamaG · 22/11/2007 22:43

So sorry to hear this mummydoit

kd73 · 22/11/2007 22:43

I am sorry to hear of your loss mummydoit - take it easy and be kind to yourself

whispywhisp · 22/11/2007 22:46

mummydoit.....I lost my Dad suddenly exactly two years ago. It is hard losing anyone you love so much, especially a parent. I had my Dad for almost 40yrs. For the first few weeks after Dad died I simply 'existed'. I was numb. I lived in a big bubble and felt desperate for someone to come and pop it for me.

I couldn't and still don't accept the fact I will never hear his voice again, have him there to ask a question, go to for advice, have a laugh with him and simply see him.

Time is a healer but it takes a long long time to get over losing someone so important in your life. I lost Dad suddenly so never had the chance to say goodbye or tell him how much I love(d) him - he died as a result of a crash with a drunk driver.

Be strong. Take time out for yourself. Let the tears flow when YOU feel like it.

Life will be hard but you will be ok. xxxxxxx

Tnog · 22/11/2007 22:47

Sorry for your loss, mummydoit

lucy5 · 22/11/2007 22:48

So sorry

lilolilmanchester · 22/11/2007 22:58

So sorry for your loss. It's the anniversary of my dad's death today.,He also died of cancer, and I too felt quite calm because i was just very, very relieved his suffering was over. I found the grief really kicked in a little while after. We're all different, so it might not be the same for you, but just incase, I wanted you to know that wouldn't be unusual under these circumstances. Hope you didn't think this was tactless....

Pinkchampagne · 22/11/2007 23:04

So sorry for the loss of your dad.

barnstaple · 22/11/2007 23:06

So sorry

fortyplus · 22/11/2007 23:10

So sorry for the loss of your dad

Mine died 3.5 years ago. He was so close to my boys. After a couple of weeks, when it had really started to sink in that they weren't going to see them any more, I asked them to think about the bast things about him and write it down. (Obviously you'd have to do that part for them.) But now they can look at what they wrote and really remember things like what it was like to be inside one of his hugs.

BoysAreLikeReindeer · 22/11/2007 23:10

So sorry to hear of your loss

I lost my dad two and half years ago, he was 65 too.

Yes, it's too young

flossie64 · 22/11/2007 23:18

I am very sorry for you I lost my FIL and my Df inthe space of 3 weeks earlier this year and even if you expect it it is heart breaking.
My thoughts are with you at this sad time.

Gingerbear · 22/11/2007 23:20

So sorry to here this. Thinking of you

kindersurprise · 22/11/2007 23:37

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you

hazygirl · 23/11/2007 19:59

so sorry for your lossxx

spudmasher · 23/11/2007 20:01

Mummydoit.Sympathy.

scienceteacher · 23/11/2007 20:02

Sorry to hear that. If you have faith, you can take comfort that he is now in a better place. If you don't, then it's comforting to know that he is no longer suffering.

chocolateshoes · 23/11/2007 20:04

I'm so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you.

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leesmum · 24/11/2007 22:31

So very sorry for you at such a sad time.

My dad passed away in sept aged only 63. He too had cancer and even when he was diagnosed (only 16 months ago) we knew it was terminal and he wasn't going to have long its so hard when it happens, nothing ever ever prepares you for it. Im glad he wasn't aware of how poorly he was at the end, and a only a few hours before he passed away i had my 2nd scan, i went to see him and told him he was having another grandson and he was thrilled to bits..now im just sad that he wont get to meet this little boy who would have loved him as much as everyone else.

Keep happy memories close to your heart xxx

expatinscotland · 24/11/2007 22:32

I'm so sorry for your loss, mummy

HaveYourselfaNortyLittleXmas · 24/11/2007 22:38

So sorry

I lost my dad suddenly at 62 two years ago and FIL at 64 not so suddenly a year ago....

I remember only too well the numbness and shock....sometimes I still expect to see him when I visit....

Sometimes I have lovely dreams where I'm talking to my dad about my dad and everything is normal and well.....they are very comforting...

Take care of yourself and your family x

HaveYourselfaNortyLittleXmas · 24/11/2007 22:39

* about my day* I meant

RGPargy · 24/11/2007 22:40

So sorry