TW Bereaved by suicide of husband

[Purplebutterfly320]

My husband took his own life on Tues.
Can anyone give me any advice about how to cope?
Thank you

You did all you could. I remember your post last month. There is absolutely nothing more you could do for your DH. You did the right thing in protecting your DS and finding what help you could for your DH.

Your DH was so far gone. He really was. I just re-read that thread, and this seemed inevitable. You could not have stopped it. I'm sure you know that, deep down.
It's a terribly sad thing that happened to him over the last few years. But you had to keep yourself safe and your DC's life secure. There's not a thing in that thread that you should feel guilty about.

You have been going through hell. You all were. He's at peace now, and I hope that with time, you and your DC's lives will also, in a different way, be more peaceful.

Join Widowed and Young, it’s only £25 a year, or something, get on their Facebook group and ask for a link to join a subgroup of theirs called WAY A Different Kind of Grief - you will find more of us who have lost partners to suicide or self-inflicted behaviour (eg alcoholism/ addiction). You will get lots of support there. Through that group, you will also find a similar group on FB called BBSSI.

Just wanted to reach out to you OP, I lost my dad to suicide a few months ago. It's bloody awful and the what ifs' are shit but entirely normal. Have you managed to reach out to SOBS? I have found talking to others who have lost someone to suicide really helpful. Lots of similar experiences and thoughts which has helped it feel less personal, less like an active choice my dad made 'against' me (not really phrasing it right!)

So sorry OP just the hardest of bereavements to cope with. Your DH is at peace now, you need to look after you & your child. I am pleased you have sought support. Just take each hour as it comes. Sending you a big hug.

@Purplebutterfly320

I just want to die and find him in heaven and at peace. And tell him how much I loved him. And how sorry I am that I couldn't save him. But I have to keep going on for our son.

That is the most heartbreaking thing I have ever read. I am so unbelievably sorry 😞

I wanted to reach out to say how sorry I am you're going through this. My almost-5 year old son's father died by suicide in December. We'd been separated for over a year, but I'd tried so so hard to get him the help he desperately needed. I'd really recommend getting some counselling both for you and your child. Also if you contact Winston's Wish they can send you books about how to talk to children about suicide. I've told my son that daddy was very ill with a serious disease called depression, and it made him decide he didn't want to be alive anymore. This is the advice I found in most places. It feels like a shocking thing to tel a child, but my son has been able to handle it and we've had some really open conversations about it. More than happy for you to message me x