Is it normal for the loss of a loved one to hit especially hard a few months down the line?

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I lost my lovely Nan very suddenly back in July, and was devastated, but after the funeral I got on with life as you do.
Now 4 months later I am finding it all quite hard again. I still have the order of service from her funeral right here on my computer desk, as there is a lovely picture of her smiling on the front that I like to look at.
I am missing her so badly, and I keep dreaming about her. I think it is really hitting now that she really isn't coming back.

My sister is suffering in a similar way, in that she is constantly thinking about Nan & having lots of dreams.

Did others go through a stage like this months after the loss of someone close?
Maybe it is something to do with Christmas approaching too, but I am missing Nan so much.
When does it feel easier?

hi i dont know when it gets easier ,the pain is easier to live with ,i remember laughing at something a few weeks after our little man died and feeling like a complete bitch how dare you laugh when hes dead,on saturday took girls to see xmas trees etc and felt guilty ,he never had one christmas, it is a year on first of dec since he died ,well get through it, have to ,its got to get better ,only thing that pmo is when people think were ok we have the new baby ffs ,i can replace anything but not our little man.pc thinking of u not chatted for a whilex

my mum died in may - i have her stuff in bin bags ina cupboard. the funeral cards are on the side where i left them all those months ago - i just can't deal with it. - i personally think that there is an expectation gto get over it after about a month - the exception being perhaps a husband or a child. and even a husband - after a year i reckon lots of people would think get over it. so the only exception is a child - i think - thats what other people think.

i have a lovely nan who is lovely and lived wth me and mum after my dad died when i was little she was always and is continuing to be the bes person in the whole world with the exception of my kids. there is just no one like her - and so i can understand you grief to some extent. the griefwith my mother is complicated with guilt and i just cant deal with that right now - keep hoping that time with wash the rawness away and then maybe after xmas i will be able to put things in order.

xxxxxxxxxx

i live in hope with youx

Nothing is normal, everything is normal... whatever way it hits you, and whenever it hits you - it is your life and loss. Take care of yourselves over Christmas.

It's hard isn't it? I still have all the bits I took from Nan's house after she died, including a bridesmaids dress I wore when I was 2, which was the one thing that still had a smell of her house. I didn't want to put it away as the smell would go quicker, when I explained this to a friend, who had asked why it was still out, she called me an old softy.

Her bungalow now has someone else living in it, and I haven't been able to walk past since the keys were handed in.

Custy - I am sorry things are still feeling so tough.x

I think its CHristmas coming that does it to a certain extent. My fabulous Gran died back in March and its the same for me - it would have been her 85th last week and now Christmas is coming 0 I was in M&S last week and I always gave her their Magnolia stuff for Christmas and found my self practically crying looking at it -- silly I know.

It gets easier, but times of year like this are harder.

It does hit hard at Christmas doesn't it, harrisey? I am sorry for the loss of your Gran.

I was thinking of writing a list of all the people I needed to buy presents for the other day, and felt so awful that this year, Nan's name was not part of that list.

Keep thinking of her loads. I have a Christmas card here that she wrote out for my DS's last Christmas & forgot to give them. We found them in her house after she died.

i lost my Grandma two years ago....and still miss her very much, although now i remember her with a smile more often than tears.
i'm going through a very hard time right now and miss her a great deal, but i know she is guiding me........