Keep making stupid mistakes

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Does anyone else have this? My mum died totally out of the blue three months ago and my dad is not coping so it's triggered a big move for me, DH and DD to be closer to him. So I'm planning the move, working full time and dealing with day to day stuff. Anyway, I keep making the most stupid mistakes at work - not reading stuff properly, tagging the wrong people, sending diary invites for the wrong times, using the wrong words. My team keep having to correct me. Everyone is being super lovely but it's really embarrassing and each day I have to correct the mistakes I made the previous day. I'm totally exhausted at the moment which isn't helping, but tell me I'm not alone! Any advice?

Hi OP.
I'm so sorry for your loss .

You are definitely not alone. Not only are you grieving, worrying about your Dad but also planning a big upheaval for you all whilst trying to work too.
When I lost my Mum my concentration was appalling. I would be mid sentence and completely lose my train of thought and like you, make silly mistakes at work. I'm afraid I have no particular advise about not making mistakes apart from the obvious double checking your work before its sent and/or asking a trusted colleague to give it a quick once over if possible.
I think as your Mum died suddenly you may still be in that 'shock' grief still which I think catches you unawares subconsciously sometimes. Is it the kind of job where you could perhaps be a bit more quality over quantity is better iyswim? Better to go a bit slower and get it right but obviously it depends on the type of work you do.
Also, I think if you're worrying about it too much you're putting yourself under more pressure which will lead to mistakes. You've got a lot on your plate so its completely understandable you're feeling this way.
I assume when you say big move, it's far away? Changing jobs for you and DH, school (if applicable) for DD? Is there a reason why Dad can't move nearer to you or is that not practical? You've obviously got your reasons. Either way, try not to be too hard on yourself. It's a lot to deal with and you have my sympathies and good wishes x

Thank you so much for your kind response. Yes, we are moving internationally so it's not possible for DF to come here. It's all a bit of a scramble and I don't have much brain space. Understanding boss and colleagues, fortunately. I'm going to keep going with the early nights and try and slow down when I'm not packing!

Best of luck to you all

Oh I'm so sorry. 3 months is so early. Poor concentration is pretty normal at this stage (and much later). Grieving is exhausting without a house move and everything else you've got on.

Do look after yourself. I know you want to help your dad, but it's not your job to fix him. He's an adult and has his own path through this grief too I don't want to sound harsh, I truly mean this from a kind place. Don't let your entire existence be about supporting other people. It's ok for you to need support too.