Grandad aka second dad

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On the 6th may we found out my grandad had terminal cancer. He died on the 15th of may so a short battle.
We were very close I lived with him from being 4 to being 8 and honestly he (and my gran) was like my second parent. I have been very lucky to be loved by him.
He got poorly from his second COVID jab and never recovered (it wasn't the jab that caused it as he had his jab on the 29th April cancer doesn't develop that fast)
I'm already struggling to come to terms with the fact I'll never hear his voice ever again or hold his hand. He really was my best friend.
How am I supposed to get over this? It's been such a shock.

I wish I had some useful advice other than time is a great healer, but I don’t. I’m so sorry for your loss, he sounded like a wonderful man. Do you have any recordings or videos of him?

Felicity, he really was a wonderful man.
I have a video of him from Christmas time but I'm hoping to get more videos of him from his computer when I visit my grandma again.

I'm also wondering what happens when it's a church service and then the crematorium? I've only ever been to a funeral at a crematorium before. I'm feeling very anxious about it

Also thank you for your condolences. It's a very strange time right now

Normally the closed coffin is taken to the church and sits there while the service (readings, hymns, words about the deceased's life) goes on. Then the funeral cars follow the hearse to the crematorium where (in this case) the service will probably be shorter, and maybe attended by just closer family and friends.
Is there something you are worried about in particular?

Remember that part of you comes from your Grandad, not just genetically but also because he helped raise you, so he will always be with you in a very real way. As you grow older you may find yourself doing or enjoying things that he did. How he raised you will influence how you raise your own grandchildren. So though his life has come to an end, his effect on the world will still be around for many, many years and I hope that's a tiny comfort right now when you must be missing him so terribly.