How to offer support?

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Hi all,

Just wondering how you support a partner whose parent is terminally ill (few weeks left)? I’m currently in a long distance relationship and trying to support my DP as best as I can, but it’s difficult when we’re 200 miles apart from each other.

I don’t apply pressure to see them and understand they need this time with their immediate family but feel like I’m not doing enough?

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Just take your cue from DP, OP. Let them know you are always available to listen and offer support, but don’t pester them for updates.
It’s not a matter of “not doing enough” - there is no prescribed normal amount of input that you ought to be providing!
Some DPs might want to cry down the phone for hours, others might prefer to bottle it up and not contact anyone, it’s very variable.
This is all about them and their needs, not your worries about how to help. I’m sure your DP knows that you love and care.

Thank you for your message. Absolutely agree with everything you’ve said. I am definitely guilty of being too preoccupied with how best to help!

Will continue to just follow his lead and be there as and when he needs me.

I'm watching too as would love some advice - in my case MIL. Thx