Upset with friend

[OnthePiste]

Hello I have not posted in here before. I lost my DSis to BC 2 years ago. At the time, I messaged all friends who I was in contact with but didn't bother with those who I had not heard from for a couple of years. One of these friends got in touch this week.

We used to work together and she also worked with Dsis. We were very good friends and never fell out, just life got in the way. Anyway, we arranged to meet this week and as I didn't want to break the news when we met, I messaged her and told her about Dsis passing. She replied-"yes I heard, so very sorry."

I am now really upset that she made no effort then to contact me-she still had my number, I would have been straight on the phone? I am not even sure I want to meet her now, am I being unreasonable or too precious?

Sorry for your loss. Often people don't know how to deal with other people's bereavement. She may have been worried about what to say or do. 2 years is a long time to suddenly pop up though. I would meet her and see how it goes.

That is crap and I would think less of her now.

She may have found out at any point in the last two years rather than at the time, which would’ve made it difficult to know how to bring it up - I found out that an old friends mum died six months after it happened and remember being completely confused as to whether to send a card etc as it’d been so long as it felt inappropriate after a passing of time.

Meet up, and take it from there.

I’ve worded that badly, six months is of course no time at all to have lost someone, but it felt too long to mark with a card as you’d normally do that very soon after a bereavement