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When life feels so empty

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Tiktio · 14/04/2021 22:50

Sorry for the depressing title. My parents have both died, my mum at the beginning of 2020 unexpectedly from cancer. It was really tragic to see her decline so quickly. I was close to both of them, used to visit regularly and talk to my mum on the phone nearly every day, talking about everything going on in our lives. I have really tried to cope with my parents death but I miss them so much. I have a family but it's not the same as chatting to my mum about everything and laughing about lots of silly things. Somedays I feel fine but other days I feel I am completely sad in grief and drowning in work and life admin which I have less and less interest in. My mum was such a strong pillar of support. I feel completely empty without it. Please tell me how you cope with it all after both parents die? Starting a new demanding job and coming out of lockdown hasn't helped as now everyone including my partner is talking about seeing parents again and I feel like I'm putting on a brave face when I feel empty inside.

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LastRoloIsMine · 14/04/2021 22:59

Don't say sorry.

My dad died in January after a cancer diagnosis in October. Because of lock down I feel robbed of precious time with him.

He was my rock. My go to person. I am list without him.
I miss him everyday and I say so.
Yes I have a life and kids to get on with but the pain and loss never goes.

I contacted cruise bereavement last week. They're great and I recommend them.
Nobody can make your grief go away you have to embrace it xxx

PinkCookie11 · 14/04/2021 23:04

Oh I am so sorry 😥😥
I haven’t lost both parents but have lost my dad.
I has bereavement counselling and I have to say it did help me. It is worth looking into.
Sadly, the pain doesn’t go away you just learn to live and cope with it.
Take care xxx

cushioncovers · 29/04/2021 10:55

I don't have any great words of wisdom but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you Thanks

terraclutter · 08/05/2021 20:15

@Tiktio I so feel your pain. I've recently lost both my parents.
I don't think it's getting easier but getting harder.
It's small things that hit you when you just want to phone your Mum and speak to her.
I've had a couple of support sessions with Cruise which felt helpful. If you need to take time off work to process your grief then do that. Take care.

lollipoprainbow · 09/05/2021 15:20

I feel your pain, I lost my dad at 14, me and my mum were so close we would speak at least once a day about silly things, she loved me unconditionally and was my absolute rock, she has advanced dementia and is in a care home, I see her once a week but my mum has effectively gone. My sister who would have been my new rock died five years ago so life is hard. I have a brother and cousins but it's not the same as having a gossip with my beloved mum/sister.

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