My dad died suddenly a few days ago, in his early 60’s. He was incredibly violent behind closed doors- I went through physical and emotional abuse throughout all of my childhood and teenage years at his hands. Hardly anyone knew, work colleagues thought he was a gentleman etc. He was still married to my mum, who has never believed me about the abuse or chooses not to! I wished for years she would leave but she never did. The funeral is next week. How on earth do I cope with people telling me they’re sorry for my loss of my ‘lovely’ dad? I’m both relieved my abuser is dead and very angry about the whole situation.