Mum's funeral tomorrow

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She died 3 weeks ago, suddenly and unexpectedly whilst walking home from her friends house.
Its been the most awful time with the coroner not being able to establish the cause of her death and I feel so robbed I couldn't say goodbye, she was fit and healthy and in her 50s. It wasn't her time.

Its her funeral tomorrow and I'm absolutely dreading it, everyone else is seeing it as a positive step and I am honestly doubting whether I can make it. I'm 5 moths pregnant and choosing Knickers in the morning makes me cry at the minute let alone having to say goodbye to my mum. And my dad has sent the link to lot sof friends and family to watch the service, whilst it being sme comfort so many people loved her and how much joy she brought to so many lives I really hate knowing they will be there watching one of the worst days of my life.

I don't really know why I'm posting, I guess. I'm just trying to put on a brave face IRL but actually I'm not doing that great

I'm so sorry for your loss

I can't offer any help bit as a bit of reassurance most crematorium have the webcast camera at the back of the chapel, so at most people may see the back of you, but may not be able to see you at all depending on seating arrangements etc.

I am so so sorry for your loss.

There's no need to worry about the live streaming, it's done from the back so no one can see faces. We watched DH's late stepmothers funeral a few weeks ago, and it was incredibly unobtrusive.

I'm so sorry for your loss. And you really don't need to put on a brave face. You're in shock, and grieving as well as pregnant. You do whatever feels right to you, there's no right or wrong way to grieve.

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, OP.

I lost my Mum suddenly aged 60 nearly a year ago, I will never get over how young she was and how unfair it was.

Honestly, tomorrow is about saying goodbye to your lovely Mum, it doesn’t matter about anyone else. Honestly you won’t notice the cameras etc. Anyone watching will be upset as well and just wanting to pay their respects. I watched my Mums back a week after the funeral, it was actually quite nice to hear the stories again and recap when it wasn’t such a horrible situation. The whole covid situation has made funerals such an odd experience and I am so sorry you have to go through this as well.

I will be thinking of you tomorrow and I hope the sun shines for you x

Thank you for your kind words. I feel a bit better after a bath and a good cry.

It helped me to know people with were with us remotely if not in person. A sort of virtual hug.

I'm so sorry for your loss

Taken far too early. I'm so sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss

Wear your sunglasses is my best tip.

She was so young and clearly you were looking forward to her having a grandchild.

Life is so hard at times 😢

I’m so sorry for your loss. What a terrible thing to have to go through. I hope you manage to get through tomorrow it’s not going to be easy but hopefully you will have lots of support on the day. It’s truly sad and life is just so difficult sometimes.

I am so sorry OP - I lost my mum when she was quite young and my sister was pregnant - she found it very hard - it’s just a huge amount to have to take on board and it will take time. So be nice to yourself, don’t expect too much and give yourself time -

Oh bless you . My thoughts and prayers are with you and your lovely mum tomorrow 💕💐💕