The comfort of 'things' in loss

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My grandma died two weeks ago. I am broken. That does not surprise me. What has surprised me is the joy and comfort I am getting from her belongings. Chief is a ring she left me but I've got some other little things in the house including a couple of kitchen things and I'm collecting more this week. I talk to them and look at them and I do feel better. Which sounds totally mad written down, has anybody else found this after a loss?

I lost all four of my grandparents and my mother by the time I was 11, 40 years ago. My father died 10 years ago.

I don't have anything that belonged to any of them and at the time of their death, I wasn't too bothered by it.

I feel differently now.

I suppose that the older I have become, the more I sentimental I am now and I wish to hold on to something of theirs for memory and comfort.

I'm sorry for your loss OP. Treasure your mementos.

It's not about it being stuff as such, it's that it's their stuff and carries memories of them. That's what you're really attached to. With my nan as well as this I've tried to bring some of her sayings and turns of phrase into use and that is pleasing too.