df died in November, He was ill for a few years but always told us he was doing well. My 2 sisters and I didnt have much contact. My mum and him divorced when I was 6. We saw him a lot but things went wrong after my stepmum came along. My mum blamed her for break up etc, and why my dad didnt see us, He had a family with SM. She was always nice to us when we did see dad but I grew to resent her over the years. Had fleeting contact with dad over the next 20 years. When he died SM rang us first, She was very upset but was very kind and tried to make us part of the funeral, asking our opinion etc. Having spoken to some family it turns out she had nothing to do with the divorce and it was my mum who stopped my dad from seeing us. I tried to talk to sm about it. She was very kind but she said there was no point going back and she didnt want to say anything bad about people (my mum, I assume). From everything I have heard and seen my dad adored my sm and they had a good life.She seems to be a lovely woman and has been very considerate to us throughout. I feel my mum was jealous and my sisters and I have paid for it, I dont know what to think,