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How to support my friend?

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ScheherazadesTales · 27/01/2021 19:26

A month ago my closest friend’s husband died from this shit virus. She has 3 children, 10, 6 and 2. The 6 year old boy was always very shy, polite, quiet. He was the sweetest and now he’s become and I quote “an angry, violent monster” He’s hitting and biting my friend and his sister (10yo). He is constantly disobedient and in a rage. I witnessed this as during one of his rages she FaceTimed me in the hope it would get him to settle down but it only made him angrier. The 10 yo is also really angry and keeps saying she hates her mum and blames her for her dad’s death. My friend has no other family and the strict lockdown rules where she lives means no one can visit her anyway. She is at a loss & doesn’t know what to do. She’s not coping. She and her DH were together going since primary school.

She says she has only me to talk to. I don’t mind at all but I don’t have children and want to help her in some way. Are there any books or blogs I can refer her to or read up myself?

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notapizzaeater · 27/01/2021 19:52

Our local hospice do family support - she might be able to access that.

School sometimes have access to counsellors too.

Winstons wish have some stuff to download

butterfly990 · 27/01/2021 20:12

I am a widow. Partner died Jan 2015.

I joined WAY (Widowed and Young). It is a charity that supports widows/widower who were under the age of 50 when their wife/husband/partner died. There is an annual fee of £25, there is however a hardship find for those unable to afford the fee.

The charity has a strong Facebook presence and offers local area support. In normal times meetups, holidays in these times zoom chats. She may even find local WAY members who would meet up for a SD walk.

I would also get in contact with Winston's wish and the local hospice.

butterfly990 · 27/01/2021 20:23

<a class="break-all" href="https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/

ScheherazadesTales · 27/01/2021 21:12

Thank you very much, very helpful. She started permanently homeschooling the children beginning of last year so not sure if their old school would be able to help with counselling but it won’t hurt to ask.

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