Has anyone else lost a parent to Covid

[Mamazee3]

My beautiful dad passed away from Covid last week. I am heart broken. He lived in South Africa. I very luckily got to care for him over the phone/video until he suddenly passed but I am devastated. I have never felt pain like this before. And to now be existing in a world that everything around us is all about Covid, feels like a horror film. I can’t watch the news now as find it so upsetting. And I can’t begin to understand how people can’t seem to think of others and take this seriously. Our local park is so busy with very few wearing masks, people hanging out in groups, it’s like people don’t believe this is happening or just are too selfish to think of others. I just wish with all my heart, I could have my dad back x

Very very sorry for your loss.
My father died too last week from covid pneumonia. A really really grim end. Can’t take it in. We have no idea how he got it as all were so super cautious around him.
Am also struggling with seeing so many people out without face masks and not social distancing. Hate reading news stories of covid deniers and people flouting the guidelines. Struggling with all the non stop media presentation of the virus, all the conflicting information.
I want to just grieve and remember the father I so loved, but feel so angry and upset.

I am so very sorry for your loss too. I feel the same as you. My dad was also super cautious. I haven’t lost someone so close to me before but I also feel incredibly alone in my grief. Not helped by the fact that I can’t hug my friends or see my family as they are in Cornwall. My dad passed so suddenly that I just would do anything to say goodbye properly. Completely heart broken. I have children in secondary school. We have been very cautious as a family from the beginning as my husband was diagnosed with cancer in the first lockdown but luckily is fine now and also its always been completely clear to me that we all have to take care in order to take care and protect others. But I just can’t understand how people are ignoring this...is it ignorance, denial or entitlement. My children’s friends all go out together, without masks carrying on like normal. It’s just so unfair.

My Mum, it will be 9 months tomorrow.
Sorry for your loss x

So sorry for your loss

Will remember your dad in my prayers

This is all so very dreadful
Be kind to yourself and take it day by day xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So so sorry for your loss too x

Thank you for such kindness. Xxx

Sorry for your loss.

My died from Covid nearly 5 days ago now. He was only in hospital for 11 days, 8 of them in ICU. He was 67. We are all heartbroken

My mum died a few months ago. Not covid, but I think she actually had it back in December 19. She had a lung condition and was fine until then. In January her lung function was so much worse. She deteriorated so much over the past year.

Loosing a loved one is hard at any time. But fucking covid means we can't grieve properly. We can do all the things we should do when someone passes. Can't even get a hug from family. It's just made things so much more difficult.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you virtual hugs.

I am so sorry for everybody's losses. It's devastating. I lost my mum yesterday. She had been so careful but then got an infection and had to go into hospital. She caught Covid in hospital and due to other health issues there was nothing more they could do. I swing from feeling numb to being devastated.

I’m the mrsbob. Tonight has been another weepy night where I’ve just gone to bed and looked through loads of pics of dad.

I'm very sorry for your loss. My dad passed in hospital from Covid two and a half weeks ago.

As I hadn't seen him since the beginning of lockdown anyway I'm finding it hard to take in, it just doesn't seem real and I don't think I'll ever accept it.

I lost my mum two weeks ago to covid pneumonia she was 63 I don't even think it's properly hit me yet and it already feels like my heart has been ripped out

That’s how I feel, whether I can accept it as nothing feels real anyway with the world as it is right now. So sorry for your loss too.

So sorry for your loss too. It’s all so tragic. 💔

My dad is in his last weeks in a hospice. Not with covid but he has picked covid up since being in there. My mum and I are still visiting him...how can we not? But everyday I am terrified of my mum getting it and becoming ill too. I am panic stricken at the thought of losing them both. And as pp said, covid has robbed us of any sort of normality surrounding losing a loved one. No proper funeral, no hugs. I can't believe that people still won't take it seriously.

I'm so sorry for your losses.

So sorry for your loss OP💐. I hope one day you'll feel able to take comfort in treasured memories of your Dad.

I lost my Dad 1 year ago - not to Covid. But my Uncle died of Covid on Tuesday. Almost the anniversary of Dad's death. I have also lost friends. It hasn't sunk in yet.

The world feels so shaky now doesn't it?

& I feel so angry lately, although really trying not to. Seeing anti-maskers on MN threads blithely mocking people who wear masks, showing off with their YouTube gained🙄 superior knowledge that masks don't help & we are rule-followers with no mind of our own.

I want to scream just STFU - for many of us, numbers and statistics have turned to names of our loved ones passing away...who knows if masks truly help very much? But at least we're trying, in the hope that masks do help.

& If wearing a face covering gives us and others a bit of reassurance, it isn't a bad thing.

Condolences to everyone who's lost someone💐

My mother in law died with Covid in March. She had cancer but picked up Covid whilst having treatment in the local hospital & didn’t stand a chance.

My father then died suddenly & unexpectedly on Thursday, not from Covid but Covid meant that I didn’t get to see him or spend time with him before he died. The last time I saw him was late September as we live several hours away & we complied with all the rules - we were supposed to go & stay with them at Christmas but they were in Tier 4 & I followed the rules so cancelled. Now that he’s dead and now knowing that so many of my colleagues went ahead with their Christmas plans regardless, I feel so cheated, so angry, so sad. I wish I’d broken the rules so that we could have had one last Christmas together as a family.

I'm so sorry for you all.

I totally agree with the two pp who feel angry and cheated about covid and especially the ignorant selfish conspiracy theorists who claim it's not real. It's not just about statistics and death rates, it's what the restrictions have meant for people who have lost loved ones during the pandemic. Eventually lockdown will be lifted but we will never get that time or those people back.

I feel so angry and scared at the moment.

I lost my mum to covid 2 weeks ago. It's like she was stolen from us before her time.

It's surreal. It's like no pain or devastation I've ever known.

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you much love and strength x

Back in April 2020 both my parents died from covid 19 just 2 weeks apart. My sister and I are crushed.
My Dad had been diagnosed with cancer and had been in hospital since January 2020 as it had spread to his spine and he could not walk. The hospital seemed to rush him out of hospital at the end of March. He was tested for the virus around 3 days before he came home as negative (he probably caught the virus in that 3 days though we can't prove it). He went home to my Mum, around a week later she was taken to hospital with covid symptoms, she was fine before, self isolating since February. We did her shopping and she never left the house. Mum died on the 8th April, I was 'lucky' to be with her when she took her final breaths. Dad was taken back to hospital with symptoms at the same time as Mum, tested in hospital, he too was positive. The hospital discharge nurse tried to get us to move him to a nursing home because of the cancer knowing he had the virus (it was on his discharge form). My sister and I couldn't do that to him and decided to care for him ourselves as he was at end of life care by then (we only found that his cancer was terminal from looking at a prescription sheet for the chemist). We waited for Dad to come home, the hospital didn't tell us about his positive result until he was on his way home in the ambulance. So we had to self isolate with Dad at his house, not being with our own husbands and children (they also had to self isolate). The hospital sent him home knowing he had covid and they originally wanted him to go into a nursing home knowing he had covid! At the beginning of this pandemic I believe the NHS were hugely responsible for the massive spread of the virus.
My Dad died on 20th April just 12 days after my Mum and during that time we had to tell him his wife had died, our lovely Mum, who would have lived many more years if it wasn't for what I believe to be the negligence of the NHS.
We will never know if Dad died from covid or cancer but he definitely had covid and it's highly likely our Mum and myself also caught it from him too. We will never know if Dad caught covid from the hospital but that too is highly likely. I have no complaint about the front line staff at the hospital but someone was rushing to get people out the hospitals last March so they had capacity for covid cases but it was at great cost and I personally will never trust or forgive our great NHS and Government for this.

@Runcrazy I'm so sorry for your loss and it sounds like it's all been a traumatic time.
I'm sorry for everyone's losses, it's just awful.
I too have lost both parents, my Dad in November and my Mum 2 weeks ago after a month in ICU.
Both not direct Covid but both caused by pandemic and lockdown.
I'm so sad. Feel I'm shock that they're both gone and just utterly heartbroken.

My amazing mum 2 weeks ago. I hadn't hugged her for so long, it's unbearable. Every time anyone talks about people over 80 with underlying health conditions it feels like she didn't matter. It's like being stabbed whenever I hear it said.
Sending love to you all

I'm so sorry for everyone its such a sad time and they're not just numbers on a news program. But it felt just a tiny bit better to write it down and share last night. Love to you all xx

@UncomfortableBadger

My mother in law died with Covid in March. She had cancer but picked up Covid whilst having treatment in the local hospital & didn’t stand a chance.

My father then died suddenly & unexpectedly on Thursday, not from Covid but Covid meant that I didn’t get to see him or spend time with him before he died. The last time I saw him was late September as we live several hours away & we complied with all the rules - we were supposed to go & stay with them at Christmas but they were in Tier 4 & I followed the rules so cancelled. Now that he’s dead and now knowing that so many of my colleagues went ahead with their Christmas plans regardless, I feel so cheated, so angry, so sad. I wish I’d broken the rules so that we could have had one last Christmas together as a family.

Similar to us, we avoided Christmas with my in laws - too terrified to risk them. A week later and dfil is admitted into hospital and two weeks after that he tests positive with Covid. 11 days post test and we've been told that suddenly he's taken a turn for the worst and we have to prepare ourselves . We haven't seen him since the autumn as we tried to protect him - instead we've missed out on one final Christmas with him. Devastating and now we're on the waiting game to get the call from the hospital

Gentle hugs to you all x