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My mum was my best friend

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movewiththetimes · 20/01/2021 22:44

Hello lovely people ❤️

My amazing, intelligent, caring and compassionate mum died of Covid on Boxing Day. I'm literally broken.

I can't get the last video call out of my mind. I keep seeing her face, every bit. I keep thinking of all the things I should have said.

She was everything to me. She was my best friend, my rock and supporting me with my wonderful autistic son.

The phone calls have stopped and the flowers have died. My brother is a blessing that she gave me in this now extremely cold world.

How in the name of surviving for my children do I get through this?

Thank you x

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follygirl · 20/01/2021 23:09

I'm really sorry for your loss.
It must be so difficult facing a bereavement during this unsettling time.
I lost my father 13 years ago (he was 69) so I know what it's like to lose a parent but I obviously didn't go through what you went through.

purplerain44 · 20/01/2021 23:15

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. I'm not sure I can give you any real answers, but when you feel ready, I think talking to someone is really important. You have been through a trauma and you need to voice it, to hear it and to keep on doing so if that is at all possible. I don't mean necessarily someone professional (although this can of course, be a very good step) but do you have any friends you can speak to? or other family? Thinking of you.

HappyInL0nd0n · 20/01/2021 23:16

Oh you poor love. Thanks I'm so sorry for your loss. How lucky to have had such a close relationship, but how painful that makes it now - the price of great love. I believe she will stay with you always in your memories, the things she taught you, her preferences and idiosyncrasies. You'll pass the best of all that on to your kids - that's the way it goes, that's the way it has always gone.

I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. You'll be in my prayers tonight. It will get better.... promise. I say that from experience. Be gentle with yourself over the coming weeks and months. Recovery from grief is never linear.

xxx

dottiedaisee · 20/01/2021 23:36

Bless your heart ❤️ You are so lucky that you and your Mum had such a wonderful friendship...cherish all the memories 💕💕

SandyY2K · 21/01/2021 12:10

I feel your pain. I'm right where you are and it's heartbreaking. I feel robbed as my mum should still be here. She would if not for this evil disease.

I feel like going to a desert island to forget it all.

I'm hoping time will help all of us in this situation.

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