Feeling like I'm losing everyone close to me - when does it stop?

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Hi all, first post in this topic. Hope it doesn't sound self pitying.
I've had a horrible few years.
In April 2017, my best friend died suddenly. Soon after, my DH left me. A very upsetting time. Then, at the beginning of 2019 my other best friend cut me off abruptly. Soon after my mum was diagnosed with cervical cancer. Last year my oldest DC decided to live with his father full time. (Ex has been horrible to me since the break up and playing mind games with oldest trying to turn him against me). I was then made redundant due to Covid and have yet to find another job. Then, before Christmas my mum's cancer came back and she is in constant pain, which is heartbreaking. I'm unsure how much longer she has. (my dad died when I was young). I honestly can't take much more tbh.

I'm so sorry to hear this. It is a lot for anyone to cope with and I am seriously racking my brains trying to come up with some words of wisdom. In my case, age hasn't really brought great insight or wisdom, but something I do say to myself when events threaten to overwhelm me is "one step in front of another". I cope as best I can by focusing on what I can change, and what I have to deal with that day, not that week or that month. Then in the evening I congratulate myself on having managed to survive that day. Try to put the friend who's ghosted you out of your mind. It's a horrible, cowardly thing to do, so maybe you're well rid. With your child, time will sort this one out. Focus on being calm and friendly and keeping in touch if only with regular texts. If you present yourself as loving and friendly it doesn't really matter what your ex says, the child will eventually realise that only one parent constantly slags the other off, and that is the father. So, focus on your Mum. Try to spend as much time as you can with her, that time is never wasted and will be a consolation in the years to come. There's a soothing saying from Mother Julien of Norwich, which is my mantra in times like these and I am an atheist “All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well." There is hope, there is always hope, and even by the laws of probability, bad luck and bad times come to an end. Sending you a hug.

Thanks peonyred
I've been spending a lot of time with my mum (in a country - not UK - which is not in lockdown so not flouting any covid rules) and it's so bloody hard. I guess a lot of us have been through it.
From a purely selfish perspective, I'm so angry that I'm losing my both parents so young.

I find out on Friday exactly what is wrong with mum. I'm dreading it.

So sorry. I also had a really really crap time a few years ago. I basically decided I had to make my life count as if it was for all of us. I carry their photo everywhere and journal each day and for me it's as if we are discussing what we have done that day