12 year old son thinks he’s gay?

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My son lost his grandfather quite sudden last week, we have been noticing odd behaviour that is out of character the most recent being a exclusion from school ( never ever has he been told off let alone in any kind of trouble at school) very out of character! Yesterday we all as a family attended the funeral. Today he has been in his room under punishment for bad behaviour at school and has now decided to tell me he thinks he is gay? I have told him it doesn’t matter what he is, I will stand by him but He is 12 years old. I’m so confused. Any advice would be great.

Sorry for your loss OP. 12 is old enough to know your sexuality and it could be that your son's stress at losing his Grandfather has caused him to need to open up more.

Having said that, it could also just be a phase.

I advise you to tell your DS that you will always love him no matter what his sexuality is. Tell him that there's no need to label himself as of yet...or ever...it's fine to be gay, it's fine to be whatever you are but there's no need to announce it so young.

As he's only 12, he's too young to consider relationships anyway. Tell him that if he is gay then that's fine but it's also fine if he isn't.

Thank you, he’s the most rough and tumble lad about I feel In shock more than anything. I’ve reassured him I love him no matter what he is.

Well yes, not all gay boys and men are effeminate. My best friend is a gay man and he's always been a bit of a lad...loves cars in the way you'd think only a straight man might. It's going to be ok whatever OP because the world is a very different place today.