What happens at interment of ashes?

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Just been thrown a curve ball in the whole grieving for dad thing. Mum just casually told me a date's been set for the interment of ashes. It's really thrown me-didn't know such a thing was a "thing", a bit leaves the date has just been set and also not sure who it involves-whether whole family needs to go (dh and kids) or just me.
Bit frustrated at the casual throwing into conversation and the assumption we can drop everything for a particular date. But now feel guilty for feeling that too.
Funeral was something I knew about, prepped for, was consulted on dates.

What happens at a churchyard interment? And will it be awful if I leave family behind. I don't really want to do it without dh-it's a final goodbye to dad's remains, but also, the children coped so well with funeral I don't want them to have something else.

A bit peeved-not leaved!

Sorry for your loss. It’s a very short ceremony where the ashes are put in their final resting place, for my mum and dad this was in a memorial garden where their plaques are. We just had immediate family - so a very small and personal gathering. DS, then 6 and 8 respectively was really upset but he didn’t come to the funeral services so it was a way for him to say goodbye.

It's very important to say the final goodbye at an internment. We weren't even told about our DP. The rift shall never heal. All those years as a family, gone in a second due to a very selfish act. Betrayal at its worst, try explaining that to the grandchildren. Sending you best wishes. 💐

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