Not being able to dream of mum

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I lost my mum 2 years ago and we had a wonderful relationship. Sadly it was a very sudden illness and death over about 7 weeks with no warning (apart from usual elderly issues as she was a very fit 75)
I dream lots always have and very vividly but I can’t seem to dream of my mum. It’s like my mind is stopping me or the odd time I see her she doesn’t talk and it’s like an old still photo.
Has anyone else experienced this? I feel I would get a lot of comfort from normal every day dreams or chats I’m not looking for a spiritual dream.
It’s so odd as I dreamed about her loads when she was alive just in everyday situations.
Thank you

My brother died 6 years ago, I've had one dream about him being dead, and being sad about it. Otherwise, literally nothing. I would love to 'see' him in a dream, to have a sense that he's come to see me, but nothing. I think it's because he is on my conscious mind so much that my brain doesn't need to remind me of him in dreams. Or something! I'm sorry for your loss OP

My DM died suddenly four years ago. I yearn to dream of her! So sorry for your loss.

I understand but you might not even want the dream, my dreams of my mother have been really odd. I had a stroke and in the maelstrom I felt my mother was close, really odd sensation.

I juat wanted to say this really resonates with me. I lost my dad in 2011 and have only dreamed of him twice. I really hate that I don't dream about him (the rest of my family seem to!).

I miss my dad and would love to "see" him in this way.

Anyway, just wanted to say, you're not alone!

I dream of my parents ( killed together, no one else involved) only in health.
I really can’t answer your question tho

This sounds exactly the same as myself and my mum, she was younger but she died 2.5 years ago, we were best mates and it was diagnosed and she was gone in only a few weeks. I have always had very vivid dreams.

I have only recently starting dreaming about her, but honestly, for me, it is awful. My dreams are just like we were, only with my now ,just turned 3 year old, playing at Nanas house and running in the garden, then i wake and it devaststing all over again that this will never happen.

This may not be the same for you when you do start to dream about her. Maybe when you are ready, your mind will let you go there and dream of her. Its hard to just want to see them again, in any form. I hope you get what you yearn for soon and its s happy experience

I never dream about my Dad. I had one dream after he died when we were walking together in the hills where he lived. He turned to me and said 'I'm going now' and walked round the corner of the hill and since then I have never dreamt about him or been able to hear his voice in my head.

Oh I’ve just seen these replies thank you for taking time to comment. Funnily enough I read some letters from my mum yesterday and had a dream about her last night. It was nice but it was a very weird dream where she had come for a visit but from another dimension where she was still alive and we were all confused as was she as I didn’t really make sense! My poor brain.
However I did hug her and sent her back to her dimension.
I think my brain is protecting me from the pain in a lot of ways.
So sorry to hear those of you who have had dreams that make your loss worse it’s obviously a double edged sword.

My dad died last year and recently I have had a lot of dreams about him. It’s really unsettling because I initially think it’s him, but then I realize it’s all wrong and it’s not really him, and we’re both upset. He tries to reach out to me and I push him away. I’m thinking of having some counseling tbh.

When you are grieving there is no right or wrong. If your mum is occupying your waking thoughts perhaps your brain shuts down so you can sleep.

If you can sleep you are lucky.

I just can’t sleep after losing my Dad and too wish he was in my dreams more. I had one
where we were walking together and another really upsetting one where he said he didn’t want to die. But that’s it, no other dreams.