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FIL dying. Just given birth

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Bettyboop82 · 17/07/2020 15:58

Not sure what I’m looking for here, just feeling sad and angry. I gave birth a few days ago and am still in hospital due to some complications. Just found out FIL (who’s been ill for a long time) has just days left to live. I feel that my husband has been robbed of what should be the happiest one of his life, I’ve told him to go and be with his dad who he has a really complicated relationship with. Am worried that FIL will never get to meet his grandchild, that DH will be away from us for weeks supporting his (dysfunctional and needy) mum and siblings. That we aren’t allowed to celebrate this new life as it will somehow be disrespectful to DH’s family... I’m missing my other children, have the baby blues and want to support DH as much as I can. Such a shit time which should be such a happy time.

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Pepperama · 18/07/2020 08:19

Oh op, I completely get all those mixed feeling and thoughts (probably both you and your other half). The timing is awful and I can imagine you feel a bit cheated after 9 months of pregnancy and then birth. We know how we want to welcome our new little people and this isn’t it. But obviously nothing that can be done about it so you’ll just have to muddle through the best you can and still try to enjoy getting to know your new arrival. Hope you feel ok soon and can go home to be with everyone

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