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Dealing with the rollercoaster

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Pinklynx · 11/07/2020 23:05

My dad is very old and so it's not been a great surprise that he's in end of life, having had a number of scares over the years. But it's so hard to sit there day after day just waiting for him to die. Clinical staff who've popped round keep saying it will be soon. It's not that I want him to go but I can't bear to see him struggling to breathe and looking uncomfortable day after day, not being able to eat, drink or speak. It's harrowing.

How do people cope? I'm not sleeping well and I feel so bad because I'm finding it so hard.

It doesn't help that we've not had the easiest of relationships, so it's not uncomplicated like people who've had parents that always adored them and who adored their parents back. But I'm still very sad.

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TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 11/07/2020 23:12

Oh, love I’m so sorry. My Dad died two years ago at 93. It’s terribly hard. Is there anything you want to say to him if he is able to understand? I’d urge you also to pace yourself and if anyone is projecting their needs and desires on you, don’t let them. It’s fine to say no to people. 💐

Pinklynx · 11/07/2020 23:34

Thanks Duchess. I’m sorry for your loss too. Two years is no time. I don’t feel any pressure from anyone else, so that’s good. It’s just the pressure I’m putting on myself!

I’ve said everything a few days ago, so that’s what is making it so hard I think! I’ve also said all the calming words for him over and over.

Thanks for your kind words.

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TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 14/07/2020 13:31

How are you getting on, Pink?

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