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I dont know if hes died

26 replies

Justme123123 · 14/06/2020 23:26

I was seeing a guy who loved a far bit from me we saw each other when we could and spoke everyday. 2 nd week in march he called said he had been very ill and that he was getting tested for corona . Next day said test come bk positive and he was still poorly . Ive not heard from him since msges Deliver but not read ( im not blocked) phone was ringing but now its off??? I just dont know what to think?? Has he died? How do i find out i never met any of his family I couldn’t even tell u the road name im in south east he lived in Hertfordshire 😟 i dont know what to do.

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Lavenderpurple · 14/06/2020 23:29

I’m sorry, that’s a difficult situation. Flowers
Were you friends on any social media? Could you message people that had the same surname, to find out?

SunshineSusan14 · 14/06/2020 23:32

How upsetting. Is there any way you can check the local newspaper records online if you have his full name? Or as pp said, if he has social media try and contact a friend through that route?

MrsCocoaJones8 · 14/06/2020 23:34

Can you google?

BillBaileysBum · 14/06/2020 23:39

Social media?

Fleetheart · 14/06/2020 23:48

I’m sorry. Do you know where he worked? Could you contact them? Or maybe the police can help you and will know how you can access the lists

BobbyBlueHat · 14/06/2020 23:50

Surely you can contact his family through fb?

Be prepared for having just simply been ghosted though

OntheWaves40 · 14/06/2020 23:54

How long were you seeing him? If it’s a few weeks I think you just have to let it go and assume you’ve been ghosted. If it’s 6 months or so then I assume you would know where he worked or some sort of link to Facebook.

Ylark79 · 14/06/2020 23:58

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RyanBergarasTeeth · 15/06/2020 00:04

Echoing the others check facebook or his work place or accept it may be a ghosting.

quizqueen · 15/06/2020 00:08

Do you know his home landline phone number, if so you can google that to try and find his address. I just googled my own and it told me the town I live in by the area code. You can then look up his name on the electoral roll to find his address in that town.

NC4Now · 15/06/2020 00:12

How long had you been seeing him?

Talksense · 15/06/2020 00:12

If you’ve got him on FB if he had sadly passed I’m sure someone would have posted/sympathy messages.

I think sadly you’ve been ghosted and he’s a coward Flowers

HarlinRay · 15/06/2020 00:28

If he’s under 60 it’s incredibly unlikely that he’s died from COVID-19. He’s probably ghosted you.

notapizzaeater · 15/06/2020 00:53

Can you find him on Facebook, or his family ? If he's sued they would be something there

ThunderCrack · 15/06/2020 00:55

@HarlinRay

If he’s under 60 it’s incredibly unlikely that he’s died from COVID-19.......

.............

That simply isnt true!!

Dozycuntlaters · 15/06/2020 11:26

Can you look at his WhatsApp (if he has it) and see when he was last on line, or messenger?

Apolloanddaphne · 15/06/2020 11:29

Tricky. He is maybe still unwell. I think it can linger for a long time. Or you have possibly been ghosted as others have said. Has he no other online presence at all?

Giganticshark · 15/06/2020 11:35

Give me his number I'll call him. I bet he's just ghosted you

ChubbyPigeon · 15/06/2020 11:52

@harlinray thats total bs. Under 30 maybe

OP what is his social media saying? Can you message a family member on fb?

For how long was his phone ringing? Bearing in mind charge in a phone is only going to last a day or two, so if it was ringing for weeks chances are hes ghosting you.

ThunderCrack · 15/06/2020 13:49

Its hard to know really.

My partner has Facebook but isnt on it very much at all and he hasnt got a mobile.
So is basically untrackable ....

Im sorry your going through this

Have you tried googling him? Putting his number into google?
Has he got facebook? Any family or friends of his, you can contact on there ?

Theredjellybean · 15/06/2020 13:54

Was he attached or married to someone else perhaps?
It seems odd that you don't know enough about him to be able to find out some thing.
Instagram, fb, Google, linkdin
You should be able to find something or someone you can contact and ask.
Also why not just call...?
If he has died you'd have thought his phone would have run out of battery by now..
My bet is he is married and been ill and now home.. Either its a wake up call and he has ghosted you or he got found out and the covid thing is a story to get out of the relationship

Moondust001 · 15/06/2020 14:09

I am afraid that something here doesn't ring true. Very few community based tests were happening in early March (and none after 12th March as they were restricted to hospital tests only), and getting a result within a day was another one of the targets that the government really didn't meet! So it's possible that he was telling the truth, but combined with now not hearing from him at all, I'd have thought the possibilities were leaning more towards him not being for real rather than dead. He didn't tell you where he lived, you have never visited him there, and there's no trace of him ... sorry it sounds like you have been had.

MzHz · 15/06/2020 14:19

I think the best thing is to assume he doesn't want contact and leave it to him.

I agree it was far too early for such an organised test with such immediate response...

My awful ex said he had it... clearly didn't cos he was faking a sniffle..

My DP even more evil and awful ex instructed their teen DD to tell him that she had the virus... Said DD did as she was told but then talked about how she'd spent the whole day in the park walking... erm... that'll be BS then... duur!

My dear friend's DH has an awful Ex - she too said she'd got it. it was a ruse to call the shots over access to their kids.

So many people lie about this shit.

If it turns out he's not lying, then what would you have been able to do about it anyway? if he's dead, cold I know, but ditto.

You've done all you can to ascertain what's going on, leave it there

louise5754 · 16/06/2020 11:38

So many people lie about this shit.

Do they? I've not known a single person say they have contacted it when they have not?

MzHz · 16/06/2020 23:17

Oh... I can play you the voice mails...

Honestly it’s the narcissistic or abusives that HAVE to make everything about themselves

Literally it was 1 day and I had my ex, oh ex and best friends ex all say the same thing!

The people I am talking about are AWFUL people, lowest of the low, hurt anyone to get what they want - including their own kids.

Blokes trying to offload someone they’re not interested in say the most ridiculous things too.

@louise5754, you’re lucky not to have these people in your life! :)