trigger warning..body photos mentioned (not graphic)

[thesuperfluousone]

I feel sick.
I just went through my Dad's camera and got the photos off the memory card. A woman who he was friends with died last year, on the memory card were photos of her in her coffin.
I don't know how to deal with this. It's really shaken me up.

I put it on a new thread so not to derail or have something so unpleasant on another thread.

Is it the fact that your dad has coffin photos that's bothering you, or something else?

Its shaken you because you weren't expecting to see pictures of a dead person.
I don't think its odd that he has the pictures, lots of people take pictures like this as memories.
I can't deal with death so its not something I would do and I would be upset seeing these pictures too but you were going through his camera so they are pictures that he wanted to have.

He wouldn't have even remembered they were there even if he remembered taking them, he had advanced dementia.
If he wanted to take the photos then that is not a problem, after all it was his decision to make but on an evening when I am struggling with my grief for him to see a photo of a body was a big shock.

I can understand why you're shocked especially if you are experiencing grief yourself. However I took some photos of my mother in law who died recently just because she looked do peaceful. I had never seen a dead person before and I found it very moving. Particularly as she was in so much pain before she died. I took the photos thinking I could always delete them in the future if I find them creepy, but I wouldn't be able to take them in the future if I suddenly realised I would have liked them. I have put them in a separate folder though so they aren't just there when scrolling through.

SuperF is it that it's one.more.bloody.thing ? I'm sorry.
You've bound to find stuff that makes you go ??? as you sort out most deceased people's things unless they were the sort of types who either Put Affairs In Order or who really did have that straightforward an inner life.
I remember finding, among my FiL's things (widowed 10 years, passed away late 70s, no GFs) some stuff he'd sent off for from a TV series about sex!
But I can quite see that pictures of someone in their coffin is very far down the list of things you'd want to find.
Would it help if you said something out loud like, "Jeez Dad did you have to do that? "

People taking pictures of a deceased person in their coffin is far more common than you might think. It's really no big deal.

I pretty much did say that TBH. I think I'd have just shrugged it off soone rather than later if I hadn't already been having a difficult evening, it was a FGS what next kind of moment, yes. Thanks.

@Aquamarine1029

People taking pictures of a deceased person in their coffin is far more common than you might think. It's really no big deal.

X-posted. It wasn't so much that as finding it unexpectedly when I was having a bad evening coping with grief at my Dad's death.

Sorry to hear you had a shock. As a very recently bereaved person I know how tough it is to be taken by surprise like that.

Going through photos is quite emotional. Would it be better to leave those until you're feeling stronger?
Very sorry for the loss of your dear Dad