My nans funeral today

[HellOfATime919]

Hi everyone,

My nan died of cancer a month ago at the age of 86. My grandad died 3 years ago to the day she died. I thought I would be okay but I’m not. I can’t get my head around that they’re both not here anymore and that my mum has no parents or any siblings.

It’s been a dark day. We went to their house afterwards which was empty. Didn’t feel right. Don’t know what I’m asking for here really... I just feel empty and lost that one moment they were here, I’ve blinked and now they’re not. I feel so so sad and I feel even more upset for my mother who is on her own. She has me and my sister to support her but no partner or siblings

Sorry for your loss HellOfATime919
I think it normal to feel like that.

I'm sorry for your loss @HellOfATime919. As @ParkheadParadise says I think that's sadly normal. When someone old dies you sometimes get people saying crass things like "she had a good innings/ that's a good age" etc. The kindest thing anyone said to me when my very loved Granny died was an acquaintance who said "it doesn't matter how old they were, you still miss them." I'm really sorry, grandmothers can be really special people.

I feel your pain. My Grandma died a few weeks ago and the funeral was yesturday. The only way i can describe her was my special person and its crushed me. Id been taking care of her for about 5 years but to me it didnt feel like that and ive suddenly realised what a huge part of my day to day life she was. Im a single mum to a 4 year old and shes always been there with me doing bits and pieces to help Grandma and shes devastated and doesnt understand. Id never imagined my life without her and its awful. So sorry for your loss