Should I call?

[sponge]

I have a friend (mum of schoolfriend of dd's) who has been trying for baby number two for 4 years. A couple of weeks ago she told us she was pregnant - obviously delighted but wary as only 6 weeks. She then had a big bleed and the hospital thought she'd probably miscarried a twin. She had to wait until today for a scan to see if the other one has survived.
I haven't heard from her yet and am not sure what to do in case it is bad news. If it was would you rather talk to a friend or be left alone with your grief for a day or two?

Can you send her a text? 'Don't want to intrude, but how are you feeling/how did you get on at the hospital - shall I call you?' That sort of thing.
If it were me, I'd rather someone called I think. That gives her the option of telling you she's not up to talking about it, or having a chat.

I don't have a mobile number or texting would be a good solution. Hmmm....

i would call. If it was bad news then i would have thought she just wouldnt answer it and then maybe leave an answerphone message and she can get back to you in her own time?

I would give her a day or two. If she's the mother of your dd's friend, is she a close friend or someone you know from the school gates?
I have had a few m/c and I would think it strange that someone I knew from the schoolgates was asking on the day, esp if it was bad news, I wouldn't want to be talking to anyone apart from dh and my close friends.

No, I met her because of dd's school but we are quite friendly, have been on holiday together etc so not just like an acquaintance ringing. Not your closest friend either but close enough to tell us at 6 weeks.

sponge, I would call her in that case. LIke Titania said, she may not answer and you can leave a message and take it from there. I hope you hear some good news from her

I called and everything's fine. They're still not sure whether it was just a heavy implantation bleed or if she in fact lost a twin but they found a heartbeat and she's started to feel sick which is always a good sign.
Thanks for encouraging me to ring guys, I'm so relieved.

that;s great news sponge! I hope the rest of her pregnancy is fine. I'll bet you're glad you called now!