Funeral arrangements for dp mum .... advice appreciated

[eastermummies]

I really want to support my dp .
His dm died and the funeral is next week .
Long story short his father wants him for obvious reasons to come and stay now for support .... stay over and take him to the funeral as that is what would have happened normally
He's desperate to support his dad at this time and it must be so hard for them all but I suggested considering the current situation he might be advised to go on day to the funeral only as hard as it will be .
They do live a long way away .
His father is elderly and we are both key workers . I'd hate to think of him passing anything onto his dad or anyone else and just want to do the right thing .
I want to tell him to just go to the funeral and not visit but I'm so close to this would really appreciate some advise please ?

I think it might depend on what you are doing as Key WOrkers.

I'm classed as a key worked, but have been working from home for 4 weeks, and not even had to go out much to shop, so would be pretty sure I am unlikely to have the virus.
If you were working in a hospital or a care home on a daily basis, or a Police Officer or paramedic having to be upclose to all kinds of unknowns on a daily basis, then your risk of being infected is obviously much higher.

I think then it would also come down to who else would be there to support his Dad if your dp doesn't go and stay.

I am very sorry for your loss. These are such difficult times

If his dad and your DP understand the risks and are willing to accept them then the decision is theirs not yours. In your DP's shoes and provided the father understands the risks, I'd go. But I don't know what the law says about that as I live in the Netherlands and we have different rules than the UK.

My DF passed away on Monday. I went and stayed with my elderly DM overnight and visit every other day. I am stringent with disinfection and have yet to hug my DM but I just had to go and support her