Grandad died no dp support

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My granddad does 3 days ago. I'm absolutely devastated. He had dementia. And other illnesses.
I wasn't with him when he passed as I'm self isolated and unable to go anywhere as being under the venerable umbrella.
When I've gotten upset the last 2 days my 'd'H says I should be grateful he was able to have a family member with him and I should be grateful he died without having covid 19 and I should be happy he died of dementia rather than this virus and he isn't a young child or other dying alone.

This has made me so angry. I do feel for other people. Parents, aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, etc etc. But can I just be allowed to mourn my gramps?! I'm so angry and upset.

Firstly I'm sorry for your loss.

People do respond differently, and hit different stages at different times - particularly when obviously he won't have the same bond with your Grandad as you do.
None of what he says is wrong, and they will be things you can take on board in time.
Right now you are in an angry stage. This is really, really usual / normal / common and very healthy.
Of course you are terribly upset and not ready to hear what he believes are his way of offering comfort.
Just give each other space at the moment, and process your grief as each of you have to.
These are awful times to lose anybody in - regardless of the cause of death, the not being able to have a funeral and wake in the way you otherwise would have must be devastating. But keep in mind he doesn't know what to say or do either.

I am so sorry you lost your dear grandad. It must be terrible for you and it is understandable to feel angry. Anger is a normal part of the grieving process. All losses of loved ones are tragic. You will feel what you feel. Take care.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can remember comments like that when my mum died, she had dementia and didn't know us in the end.
Deep down I knew they were right it was a blessing, she'd lived her life. But I was angry and also grieving I hated when people said it.
Losing someone close takes you on a journey with many emotions you've never experienced before.