Travel arrangements for funeral

[Pugdoglife]

Unfortunately my aunt passed away recently and her funeral has been arranged for next week.
My mum will be attending her funeral, as it was her sister and they were close, obviously I won't be able to attend due to the current lockdown.
It is going to be a cremation and the family have been told up to ten close relatives can attend, but due to current restrictions funeral cars can't be arranged, my mum can't drive, so I'm wondering how she should get to the crematorium?
Would one of the other family members be allowed to collect her and drive together?
Would it be acceptable for me to drive her if she sat in the back of my car?
Getting a taxi or bus seems more risky or the other option would be to walk, but it's about 3 miles away.

Does anyone have any advice?

Only you can make the decision if you want to risk seeing your mum and giving her a lift. It goes againest the advice obviously.

That's the problem, every way of traveling goes against the advice.

The most sensible option seems to be getting a lift with someone else who is attending, as long as she sits in the back of their car, but that's not really following the rules either.

Ten people are allowed to attend so logic must say they are allowed to travel there. It's then up to you to risk assess the best means in your particular circumstances. Getting a lift from someone already going sounds sensible to me as they will be at the funeral together

PS sorry for your loss and that you cannot attend; hard times

If she's going to travel in a car with someone sitting in the back isnt going to make any difference. You cant social distance in a car.

As she was your aunt aren't you considered to be close family or is it that you are isolating?

There can only be a maximum of 10 people, my uncle, her 3 children, one of her grandchildren (the others are too young) and her 4 sisters.
So there is no room for me as her niece, which I am ok with, I would prefer to be there but I understand why the rules are so important.

The OP not going is probably more down to the restriction on numbers. If there are only 10 allowed by the time you count possibly a partner, children & their partners & grandchildren the 10 places are probably gone..

I'd ask the funeral director for their advice, they will know the ins and outs as well as anybody.

Presumably she doesn't live with somebody who drives? That woulds be the obvious one.

No, unfortunately she lives alone, the funeral directors just said everyone would need to drive themselves, but my mum can't drive.
I'm just wondering what is the least bad option. I'm terrified that my mum will get I'll and my husband is in a vulnerable group so we are having to be very careful.

If you drive your mother & she sits diagonally behind you both of you wearing masks you will reduce transmission risks. Plus wipe the car before & after. Maybe stand outside the car during the cremation so it’s less dangerous.

Do what works best for you and your own judgement.

We have my FIL's funeral on Thursday. Again 10 mourners. We have got cars though. Can only have one I think and it seats 6 passengers.

Rest of us will follow in one other car.

We are using our own judgement re mixing the households. Mil has been staying with us for the past week anyway. We've had isolation prior to that. BIL's family has been self distancing too and taking sensible precautions throughout as well. So we are happy that with those precautions and will be in the same cars and house after for the afternoon.