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Agonizing wait at the hospital

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cecillia · 04/10/2004 12:31

I developed an infection from the ERCP and was in hospital all day yesterday. Had to got to A&E and wait eight hours! before seeing a doctor. I was so angry and crying all the time. I did not want to completely loose it as I did not want to make my partner more anxious than he already was yet I had no energy to control have I felt. I was in pain and had all my hormones playing up as well. When I complained to the doctor that I waited so long, he told me that he had to operate on a woman or else she would die!. I later found out that he was the only gynacologist in the hospital, running around trying to deal with everything. I felt bad that I complained and sent positive thoughts to the woman who was having the operation. I just feel frustrated that all the tax I pay goes to fund a war I do not believe in and yet I can not even get basic care. I mean they lost my urine sample twice in the course of eight hours! the A&E department was like a ghost town with two nurses and no doctors around. I was laying next room to a psyciatric patient who was laughing histerically and signing: "God save Jesus" songs. Shall I continue?

Maybe I am overreacting. It is the emotional side of things which makes it hard. I was hoping to have my delivery in that hospital and yet had to deal with another loss instead. I don't have any children. I have been dreaming about breast feeding, changing nappies, holding babies for the last few weeks. I enjoy these dreams in a way and contrary to others I also enjoy chatting to my pregnant friends and talking about babies athought I do not think I would like to see one. My brother is going to have a baby in January so I will have to get over that one.

Anyway I went on a bit, just needed a good old moan. Thanks Mrs. Wednesday and others for being there.

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strawberry · 04/10/2004 13:21

Cecillia - I don't know what to say except to send you big hugs. Are you feeling any better physically today? thinking of you

throckenholt · 04/10/2004 13:24

hope you feel better soon.

NomDePlume · 04/10/2004 13:26

Hugs, wish I had advice.
xx

bakedpotato · 04/10/2004 14:13

you're not overreacting. understand exactly what you mean about taxes, wars and basic healthcare. it's absolutely not right that you should have had to go through that. i'm so sorry.

welshmum · 04/10/2004 14:18

Cecillia, I'm sorry to read about your troubles. It's such a horrible time, with hormones all over the shop and nothing to show for it apart from tears. I really hope you feel better soon physically and as for your emotions I don't think you're remotely 'overreacting'. Of course you need to react and talk about what happened. I hope you get lots of support.xxx

coppertop · 04/10/2004 14:36

I'm so sorry you've had to go through all of this. xxx

MrsWednesday · 04/10/2004 14:39

Oh Cecillia, I read your message with tears in my eyes. I'm so sorry this has happened - you've been through such a terrible time recently.

Sending you enormous hugs. I hope it's all over now and that you can have some quiet time at home to recover mentally and physically.

(((((((hugs))))))))))))

cecillia · 05/10/2004 11:06

I feel much better today. Sorry to depress all of you and thank you again for your supportive messages. I think the infection is clearing out quite nicely. I have spent the morning watching Trisha for the first time and reading girly magazines. It is good to take some time off.

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MrsWednesday · 05/10/2004 11:32

I did the same thing when I was off recovering after my D&C, and also got some funny films to watch on video. Great girly mindless entertainment. It's not going to make everything go away, but I reached the point when I didn't want to be thinking sad things all the time.

((((hugs)))))) Cecillia. Take care of yourself.x

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