Fear of losing other loved ones

[BilboBercow]

I'm wondering if this is a common issue following the death of a loved one.
My mum took her own life almost two years ago and I feel like I've generally been fairly strong and coped about as well as anyone could be expected.
The only issue is that I'm developing a real anxiety around losing other loved ones, particularly my six year old DD. I find myself having regular intrusive thoughts about this, being the one loss I don't believe I could recover from.

It's especially frightening that my mum died after developing really severe anxiety so obviously that's a worry.
Could bereavement counselling help with this? I started trauma counselling around 6 months after my mum's death but they wanted me to re-live the day she died and I didn't feel I could at that point.

Hello Bilbo - this must be an incredibly tough time for you. I'm very sorry about your mum. I think the fear of losing others must be common - I certainly had it so don't feel that you are suffering alone. I think counselling can help - but you have to kids a lot of frogs (under no circumstances kiss counsellors :) to find the right set up for you. While it isn't necessarily a bad thing to be pushed out of your comfort zone, you certainly shouldn't feel that you are pushed to the point of discomfort or stress. As two years have passed I would def conducer giving bereavement counselling a try. It is ok to have anxieties after what you have gone through / are going through but it is definitely worth speaking to someone about that as it is exhausting being in fight or flight mode all the time - and right now you need time to continue grieving and time for your DD (and some time to yourself). Good luck!

Thanks Struggling, that's kind of you. I feel like grief has come back to bite me recently but realise objectively I'm just in an earlier stage than I realised. Think I'll look into counselling

Absolutely think you should explore bereavement counselling. It's no wonder you're having intrusive thoughts, you've gone through a dreadful trauma. I really hope you find some peace