What did you do for the first anniversary of your child's death

[stoparguingkids]

Hello. Fairly new to mumsnet and looking for some advice. Next month will be the first anniversary of our daughter's death. She died in March 2019 aged 4 quite quickly and very unexpectedly from a flu like virus. Next month we as a family want to do something special to recognise this date. We have two other children, an 8 year old and a remaining twin aged 5. I would like to know what others have done to recognise this very difficult milestone. Thanks.

Firstly I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the year you must have been through. Whilst this is a very important date for you all, I would keep it simple so as not to add any pressure to any of you, particularly the siblings. At the Barrow, we invite people to write a special message to their loved one, on a paper shape (maybe a heart, a dove, or a butterfly, that your children could make and decorate prior to the anniversary). The paper is then dropped into our firepit, and burned sending the message to the life lost when it is lit. I hope your day passes in a way that is most fitting for you all. Kind regards.

So sorry for your loss.

My friends did an un-birthday party. Had an Alice in Wonderland theme. It was very special.