Second Pregnancy - Still childless

[wildwind]

Hello - wildwind here. Lost thread I started before. So sorry to read through the sad experiences of other mums.
Just lost second pregnancy. First was at 16 weeks (baby died at around 11). This one week 9. Never got heartbeat. D&C tomorrow.
Still no child at 37. Apparently no problems conceiving. But then....
Very angry rather than sad. Angry with husband, myself, the world.
And put on around 3kg, did no serious sports - now fat, unfit and no baby.
The best wishes to all of you.

Oh wildwind, I am so so sorry to hear your news. You must be devastated. Sending you lots of hugs. I can only imagine a teeny bit how you are feeling because my 3rd pregnancy ended in MC at 9 weeks also just over a month ago. (I have ds1&2 already).

I hope someone comes along soon with some more practical help than me. Til then I'll send you some more hugs xxx

I mean more practical help with being able to hold on to your next pregnancy - tho I know it's such early days in the grieving process yetfor you. But as you know there are lots of people on here with similar stories to yours...thinking of you.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

I had two pregnancies, one eight weeks and one five months and no baby to look after. I felt angry too.

I can only say look after yourself and your dh, the anger will pass and be replaced by a kind of acceptance....Best wishes to you, there is every chance of a happy outcome...Life can seem so unfair sometimes xxx

wildwind so sorry for you

I am here because my mum's second pregnancy was a mc, She had 2 dcs and so I was her second child but her 3rd and last pregnancy. Huggs and thinking of you xx

wildwind - so sorry to hear of what you're going through. My first 2 pregnancies ended in miscarriage too, But there is still hope. My 3rd pregnancy was successful and I am ready to "drop" with number 2 in 5 wks.

I felt very angry, and empty after mine too, you are totally normal, you will go through so many emotions before you feel any better.

But you will eventually feel more normal. My best advice is to share your feelings as much as you can. I found mumsnet a godsend.

Wildwind, there is still hope. I had an ectopic with the first and a m/c at 18 weeks with the 2nd. The third should have been a twin as I m/c at 9 weeks but went on to have the other one. The 4th is 7 months. I am 38.

Wishing you much peace because where you are at right now is awful

wildwind - i am so so sorry. i hope that you are getting all the care and support you need. really hope things work out xxx

So sorry.

If it makes you feel any better, i had 3 mc's before having my 1st successful pregency, i now have 3 ds's, last one i had at 35, there is hope.

Strange question i know, but are you o neg blood group???

Hi wildwind

Hope your d&c went ok today and you've got someone taking good care of you. You look after yourself and let us know how you're getting on.

XXX

I am 26 weeks with my 5 pregnancy and have one dd aged 3.9

I have had two mc (14 week and 5 week) and a stillbirth at 25 weeks.I am 40.

You always think having a baby will be easy but then you find out its not always the case.I never thought I would be having a baby at 40 but no choice

Good luck and dont give up.The most important thing is you can concieve and although right now that is not much consalation, you will concieve again and go on to have your baby.
x

wise and considerate words- what a star

Oh my goodness - what a lot of support I get on this site! Thank you all so much!!! Have not many family left and remaining two not nearby - you all help so much.
Law3 - nope, am A+, so no problems there. Ta.
D&C went well, no probs. Now zonked out. Solpadol is bliss.
Will try lose some (not too much) weight, eat lotsa veg and return to spinning class asap.
Hubby and me refuse to be defeated and you all confirm that's the way to go. Thanks. He took it pretty hard. Any advice for the male of the species?
Hope I don't lose this thread again - am eeejit on computer.
Sending good vibes to all women out there.
Also have incredible urge to bake Swabian Applecake. Wish I could share it with yous. Be well.

Take care of yourself Wildwind, I wish you well for ttc in the future

So sorry to hear your news lifes a bitch sometimes!! I found out at 20 wks there was no heartbeat, it is the worst feeling ever!! I put on loads of weight started showing really quick then gone... leaving you with more weight and nothing to show for it!!! It will get easier ( well thats what I say to myself everyday, not quite happening yet)