Just can’t go on any more

[Pixilulu]

Just that really, my DH passed away earlier this year after a short illness. DC are struggling at school. Christmas is coming up. I have no family of friends to turn to and no help.

I'm sorry I don't have any words of wisdom, but I can offer a hand hold

I feel for you - its devastating and hard to support the children through this.

Are there some local hospices you could contact and see if there are any groups for kids that have lost a parent that they would be welcome to come to, they may also have some help for you - it sounds like you never got to that stage but a friend of mine in similar circumstances has had lots of help from the hospice her husband was helped by towards the end.

Also District Nurses or GP may also be able to put you in touch with local groups for you both to give you some support.

Please don't struggle on - do ask for help I know its hard but it will give you time to let go and grieve yourself and the children will be safe

That sounds so tough. Have you spoken to anyone about what you're going through and how you're feeling? There are people who are here to help, 24/7. You can get through this. x

sopme appropriate charities you could try as well

www.winstonswish.org/
Mind also helps with the grieving process as well as Samaritans who may well have lots more contacts

xxx

I’m so sorry about your DH.

Have you gotten a tree, presents, etc. yet?
You can help your children have a good Christmas despite the sadness & difficulties.

I’m just so tired and sick of struggling.

You’ve just made me cry - it’s so nice for someone to say something kind and helpful.

Sorry for your loss @Pixilulu
I find Christmas really painful. Have you had any counselling?

I am so sorry for your loss.

You can go on and you will. I promise!

For now, why don't you tell us about your husband? I'd love to hear about him?

Things sound tough OP. It's still a very short while since your husband died. Could you get get in touch with CRUSE to see if there is any help or social contact available?

Cruse do children and young person support but you could try Winston's wish as mentioned above or hopeagain.

Also there's WAY (widowed and young) who are meant to be great for spouse support.

In the meantime we're here for you

So sorry for your loss Pixilulu

How old are your dc and what plans do you have for Christmas so far?

Are there things you would have done with DH that you will miss and want to tell us about ?

pixilulu I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how tough it is for you, please post here for support

So sorry for your loss, pixilulu. Some very helpful suggestions on this thread.

You DH having died this year, and suddenly, leaves you in such recent grieving that your feelings of being overwhelmed are entirely understandable. A sudden death, while not worse than any other death, is defined as traumatic, so that's what you and your children are; traumatised. My DH died suddenly and recognising this special aspect was something I found helpful.

Would you like to tell us about your DH?

Do keep posting.

Am sorry for your loss... and the struggles - no other words really