When to be there?

[Peach1886]

A dear friend is in the last stages of cancer, at home with hospice care. I live 300 miles away but want to "be there" for her DS (30s), who is on his own with no other family or partner to support him. Do I go now whilst she is still just about here (don't know how many days left) or do I wait and help with the practical stuff once she has died?

Don't want to intrude by going too early but don't want him to feel completely alone either -when I ask he says he's fine and it's too much to ask for me to go down there (I have a young DS and a fairly pressured job). I can't stay indefinitely when I do get there, so I don't know what to do for the best.

Your advice gratefully received, thank you.

In terms of being there for her ds, I would go when you hear she has passed.
If she is being cared for at home through the Hospice, then any questions he has now, he can talk through with the Hospice staff involved.
Bless you

Thank you that makes sense , we're all just going day to day atm but as determined as she is I can't think she has long, so hard for him to have to watch and wait. And thank you for the flowers x