So Angry With Hospital

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I just need to vent my anger and I'm after some support and help to deal with it.
My brother in law died at the end of October, we were very close and I loved him as a brother. He was 53.
He was admitted to hospital after a fall and we were told he had an infection, he died 9 days later from sepsis.
My sister was told at 10am on Friday morning that he was dying and was with him until he passed away at 330am Saturday morning.
We have just had a meeting with the hospital to discuss what happened and what they did for him as this was completely unexpected. They sound as though they did everything they could for him.
My anger comes from the fact that they suspected he was going to die on Wednesday and knew he was dying on Thursday but didn't tell my sister until he had slipped into a coma. They have admitted they were wrong and have said they are sorry. But we don't want apologies, we want that time.
I'm a believer of when it's your time to go then it's your time, but they have robbed us of spending more time with him before he left. We were all still working and visiting him in the afternoon and evening but if we had known my sister would have been with him 24/7.
I don't know how to deal with this anger, I'm pretty sure it's grief but I've never felt like this before.
Any comments will be appreciated xx

I didn't want to read and run. I'm no expert on this but I would say yes you are grieving. Anger is very much part of that.
Express the anger, as you are on here, and eventually it will pass. Your anger will largely be for the life lost of your bil as well as how the last few days were handled. Mostly you're grieving and angry that he's gone but redirecting that anger at the hospital.
Time will help - cliched I know, but true. I'd say let the emotions out. Don't try to bottle them up. Like I said, I'm no expert, this reply is based on my own experience.
Lots of love to you and your family OP.

I think your anger is understandable- if you had known before he was in a coma, perhaps your last moments with him would have been more meaningful.

I would consider contacting PALS to talk about the hospital issue - not necessarily with a view to making a complaint but just to talk it through and find out if what they did was usual practice.

Also you should consider accessing counselling to talk through your feelings of grief.

So sorry for what you are all going through

Hospitals do seem to have room for improvement in this area so yes, have a word - perhaps you can get things changed to make things better for people in your situation in the future.