Having to tell people.

[DeathMetalMum]

My mum passed away yesterday. I'm feeling numb, but OK. I have a lot of support.

I'm struggling with telling people, I spoke to my boss yesterday before she had passed. I need to update but can't bring myself to ring. I have a few messages and I'm finding it hard to write it down and actually tell people I know.

I'm very sorry for the loss of your mum.

It's hardly surprising you feel knocked for six - you've had a huge shock, even if her death wasn't unexpected. Losing a parent is often a life changing moment.

So, while you still can't quite believe she's gone, it's entirely understandable that putting it into words, making it officially real, and potentially having to have several upsetting and near identical conversations as you tell various people, can be a very difficult and daunting prospect.

I'm glad you say you have support. This is the time you need to make the most of that. Most people will want to help if they can. You could possibly ask someone you trust to pass on the news for you, especially to those who you're not particularly close to, like your boss, neighbours, and so on. I'd be happy to do that for a bereaved friend or relative if they asked.

Yes, I agree, I asked people to pass on the message - DP did the phoning round to relatives.

So sorry @DeathMetalMum for your loss 💐💐. Can you drop your boss a text? I'm sure it's perfectly acceptable in the circumstances. Be kind to yourself and lean on those offering support xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree about sending your boss a text. I did that when my father passed away recently and texted a colleague who passed the news around as I just was too upset to make that phone call.

I feel for you. Its a horrible time. Big Hugs.

I am sorry that you've lost your mum, OP .

I would second what others have said about asking someone to do it for you, a partner if you have one? My DP told everyone when my brother died, and it was such a help.