Partners death

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I'm devestated my partner and dad to my two gorgeous girls took his own life last week. He was an amazing dad. Our life's are never going to be the same. The mental health struggle got two much and now he's gone. We will never get over this, he was so loved by everyone. Does anyone have any advice to get me through this

No advice, just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear your news and offering a handhold. Are you and your girls getting any bereavement counselling?

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and pain. I have been in a similar situation as you 8 years ago. I can not tell you it will get better or easier but I can tell you all of you will learn your own ways to cope and deal with what has happend to you. Only you will figure out how that is. The best thing I can say is take time for you and your children to bond and get through this together and to let them and teach them they can be as open and honest with how the feel. And as much as it will cause you heart ache for you to also show them how you feel. Couciling will definitely help for all of you. You have some tough times ahead but you are strong evan tho right now you don't feel it. You will all be OK. don't be afraid to ask for help if you are overwhelmed and need some help been a mom. It hard enough to admit in day to day life let alone when you are going thro this. It is OK to need help and head space.

Another handhold from me.

I'm so sorry for your loss

Very very sorry for your loss. xx

Thanks everyone this has been the worst few days of my life. I still can't get my head around whats happened. Can't believe I won't see him again. I have to stay strong for my children but don't know how e are going to get through this.

Sending my condolences x

I'm so sorry to hear this, I lost my husband the same way in June and the pain and devastation it left us all with has been horrific. Just try and take one minute at a time is all I can say, keep talking to the children and try and get some support for you. SOBS has been really helpful both the phone line and forum, as well as Winston's wish for the children. You will get through this, it may not seem like it now but life has a way of keeping going and eventually we have to keep going with it - thinking of you and your children xx

I'm so very sorry for your loss

So sorry for your loss

I am so, so sorry for you and your children, snop. It will take a while for you to be able to accommodate all this. Please do accept help if you can. Cruise are very good indeed.

I'm so very sorry. I lost one of my AC to suicide. You will get through, for your children's sake but the pain feels unbearable. I wish you strength. What you're going through is nightmarish. Do whatever you need to keep going.

So sorry for your loss 🌸
Can I suggest contacting WINSTON'S WISH HERE
They do a lot of work with children of parents who have taken their lives. Sending you a huge hug....

Thanks everyone the last few weeks have been a blur, I have contacted sobs and they have. Been great. Also whinstons wish has been fantastic support over the phone and sending me a few books on how to deal with child bereavement. I'm just trying to focus on the children and taking each day at a time. It's so heartbreaking and I just can't seem to believe its happened, I'm ok when the kids are here but as soon as I'm on my own I just break down. I can't believe I didn't see the signs and the guilt from that is eating me up

One day at a time. I lost my husband suddenly (heart attack) when my kids were 4 and 6. It is tough and now ten years later I still have a cry at times. But I also laugh and have fun. You have to keep going for your kids and the black cloud will lift. Don't blame yourself and its natural to be angry with your partner too if you feel that.
So take it day by day. Forgive yourself if you snap at the kids or just feel overwhelmed. I had some really bad moments that I am ashamed of now. But I have two wonderful children that seem to have grown into lovely young adults. We keep photos of their father up and we talk about him lots. We celebrate his birthday every year.
Hang in there. Accept help. Be kind to yourself. Stand up for yourself.

Snop, don't feel guilty. It will eat you up and it was not because of you. MH is an illness and just like if he had died from cancer or a heart attack. You are not to blame so don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes people will ask if you saw it coming, or he had been behaving differently or was he depressed. It is not because they think you should or could have prevented him taking his own life, but because they are reassuring themselves that their life could not be ripped open so suddenly.

I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost my partner 10 months ago in a car accident. We also have children they are now 1 & 3.
I joined widowed and young support group and honestly just talking to people in the same situation has been such a massive help. There are people in the group that are years down the line and they're happy to talk and share their experiences.
Thinking of you and your babies