What to put in his coffin

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My brother in law died unexpectedly and suddenly yesterday morning.
We were so close and my sister has come to stay with me for a while.
We've had lots of conversations about many things and it's got me thinking I'd like to put something in his coffin for when he's cremated but I can't face searching the internet for ideas of what to get so I thought I'd turn to mn
Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated

A letter if you think it will help you, and your DSis doesn't mind?

I'm very sorry for your loss.

The letter idea is nice. What about a photo?

When I lost my husband I put his favourite hat in his coffin, because he started wearing them to keep warm after he took ill and ended up with a collection, which he loved and a flower from my wedding bouquet. My youngest put in a pair of his bed socks, because she didn’t want his feet being cold. My boys put in photos of a really happy occasion they had together.

Have you any lovely photos of you with him? As a sil, rather than his child, wife or parent, you might want to ask his family if it’s ok, first. Also a photo can be discreetly put in and not take away from anything his immediate family have placed in the coffin.

I’m very sorry for your loss. 🌹

My daughter was stillborn. We put a photo of me, her dad and her brother in with her, a tiny bunch of snowdrops, a blanket and a soft toy (obviously the last one won’t really apply!)

The crem won’t allow anything metal, just so you know. A letter would be nice, a favourite scarf, a photo, a favourite book or a book of beautiful poetry?

I think you need to discuss this with your sister first

Thank you for replying. I should have made it clearer but my sister is happy for me to do this.
He has no other family but my sister and our family.
I'd not thought of a letter, that's a great suggestion and maybe a picture xx

Oh your poor sister. I’m glad she has you and your family.

When my daughter died we all put a letter in her coffin as well as photographs and my other daughters drew pictures for her.

When my uncle died, we put a shirt from his favourite football team in his coffin.

So sorry for your loss.