Counselling?

[decisionsdecisions2]

Hello,

I was wondering if anyone could share their experiences in what to expect in bereavement counselling? As time is going on, I'm feeling more and more new emotions surfacing and I'm not coping with them too well. I have definitely suppressed what's happened and have not come close to actually thinking about it properly yet.

Unsure where to start looking for counselling or if it would even do me any good.

A bit lost really!

Thanks in advance

www.bacp.co.uk/search/Therapists

I've been in therapy for a while. I would recommend using the link above-as all the ones listed are registered.

The most important thing in therapy is the relationship you have with your therapist. It's okay to email a few and see which one you feel most comfortable with.

Do you want to tell us? Happy to chat x

Ive had bereavement counselling.
I started 6mths after dd1 died. I wasn't ready before that.
My dd died in tragic and upsetting circumstances.
I first i found counselling very hard and upsetting, it took me a long time to open up. In the end it did help but it wasn't an easy process.
I think you need to find a councillor you are relaxed with and can help you to open up.

I had Bereavement Counselling following the death of my DH and DDad very close together. Both died in horrendous accidents and I was extremely shocked, barely able to function, eat or sleep.

My initial counselling was a few sessions 6 months after DH’s death. They helped to sooth my initial pain but barely touched the surface.

Two years later I had another round of Counselling which lasted 6 months. That was much more beneficial.

I found my own Counsellor by asking around amongst friends, colleagues etc. I then requested an initial session to decide if I could work with her and if she thought I would benefit from the Counselling process.

Thank you everyone. Thanks for the link @Orangecake123.

Lost my mother, young and completely unexpectedly recently. It has practically had to lead to a lot of really big changes my own and my family's life so I suppose I haven't had time to process what's actually happened.

@ParkheadParadise (great name btw!) I think I might be similar. I'm almost a year down the line and am only now really "feeling" what's happened. I think counselling now, or in the near future would be beneficial.

I'm having another child very soon and am very worried about the likelihood of PND setting in if i don't try to at least get my thoughts in some sort of order...

I'm so sorry to hear about all of your awful losses. Life is so fragile. I know it's a cliche but my god it's so true!

It’s so interesting that you say that 6 - 12 months after the event you start “feeling” it, that really resonates.
It’s like the aftermath comes to engulf after the horror and shock.

I rang up a free counselling service which is available through my work. I wanted an assessment and to have the 6 free telephone sessions.
It was very unhelpful and I felt speaking from a script.
This has put me off trying to continue.

We’re you all referred by your gp or did you pay privately?

My grandmother passed away in august, but I was already in therapy before that with my long term therapist (2.7 years at that time).

Whilst he is aware I haven't been able to talk about it yet and he hasn't pushed me to do so.

I pay privately but my london therapist sees me at his discounted rate of £40 instead of his usual £63 per session.

@decisionsdecisions2
I was pregnant with Dd2 when I lost Dd1. Believe me grief and pregnancy hormones are not a good combination. I can hardly remember the first couple of months of Dd2's life.

@crosser62 ah that's interesting as I also have a work scheme. I am a little bit worried about the confidentiality aspect too. Think I'll give it a miss!

@ParkheadParadise My god, that is truly truly awful. You must be so strong. I'm so sorry for your loss. Dealing with a new baby and grief must have been so hard.