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Sugartits87 · 22/09/2019 19:06

Recently lost my gran who I was very close to. She was a huge part of my upbringing and a thoroughly decent and wonderful woman.

She became ill and died within the space of a month. So while we were told she was terminal and prepared for her to go it still happened very quickly.

On a day to day basis I am coping well. I'm going to work, looking after dc, having days out, laughing. But every now and then I will have some sort of moment where I remember she's not here anymore. That I won't ever see or talk to her again. I am finding it so hard to deal with and make sense of.

Sorry this is a ramble. I just wonder how people get through it. My gran was old. It doesn't make it easier but I suppose it's the natural order of things. But how do people cope losing children, spouses, parents before their time. All I can keep thinking now is that this the beginning of me gradually losing the people I love and life is just going to get progressively shitter and sadder from here on.

There are support services available I know that but I feel like I just need to get on and accept it. It's life. I just feel so sad and regretful of not spending more time with her while I could.

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notashotasthepreviousyear · 22/09/2019 19:37

it's the worst thing isn't it, grief takes time and you need to be kind to yourself as you go through it, might be worth talking to supportive friends as we all go through it Flowers

SamBeckett · 22/09/2019 19:44

Losing someone you love changes your perspective on life . It is hard to cope and even harder to put it into words ,
I lots my DH almost 2 years ago , most days I am ok but some are crushingly sad.
I joined MN because I needed someone to talk to and it worked for me , both with the emotional and practical side.
Have you got anyone in RL that you can talk to ? or talk to us on here if it is more comfortable for you

Sugartits87 · 22/09/2019 20:19

I am reluctant to lean too heavily on family members right now as they are all struggling too. Friends are supportive but it's that type of support where they're kind and say the right things but really they just want me to snap back to normal. Same to some extent with dp. He is very loving and supportive but I know he just wants me to be ok again. And for the most part I am. I haven't fallen apart. But it's these moments of sheer sadness and pain where I remember I won't see or speak to her again.

It's my first meaningful loss and it's horrible.

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