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Starting to struggle again

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thebluewidow · 08/09/2019 21:06

I’m six months in (almost to the day) and my entire focus for the past six months has been getting to this milestone. I know that for most people, things feel better after six months, and they definitely don’t feel as raw or traumatic as the early days. Nowhere close, and for that I’m grateful. However as we turn into a new season, I’m finding I’m struggling again. I’m missing him more. I haven’t ‘done’ Autumn or Winter without him yet, and I did love our cosy evenings in front of the fire, and the way we’d bring in the fruit harvest, and the way we’d plan for Christmas. Everything is so different this year, and I’m not looking forward to the long, cold evenings in a world where he doesn’t exist anymore, even though our relationship was really troubled.

Just wanted to get that off my chest really.

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Rightwayup · 08/09/2019 21:15

It's not linear. One step forward two back. Take 10 min every day to scream. Really scream. We are all far too british. X

Crockof · 08/09/2019 21:16

You are still so new to this, I understand why you thought six months would help but it's such a short length of time. Be kind to yourself

thebluewidow · 08/09/2019 21:44

Thanks both. I'll bear in mind that there are all sorts of loops on this journey, and just keep with it. No other option really.

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