My adult stepson has a terminal cancer diagnosis. He's married but they are both young and live a plane ride away.
The family are close and visit a lot, holiday together - he has siblings who are a bit younger one of whom is a bit fragile.
My husband is dealing with it by sort of not dealing with it. He's doing a lot of organising. The whole family is sort of doing the same thing - carrying on with life but with extras like a big family holiday planned. He's maybe got a year before his quality of life will deteriorate. We've all known for about a year.
My DH and I are in the middle of buying a new house, taking on a mortgage in our 50s when we don't have one now. Buying somewhere with a garden and detached.
I'm not sure whether things like this are a good idea. I've no idea how my husband will cope when his son dies, what state he will be in. It's all just so desperately sad.