Getting rid of maternity clothes

[hellenbackagen]

It's 3!years today since my baby girls funeral.

I'm now 47 and have come to accept I will not be having any more children.

I got a
Charity bag through door today and I've decided enough is enough.
I have no idea really why I was hanging onto my maternity clothes other than they hardly got any wear really since I found out she had a chromosome disability. She was 15 weeks when I terminated. I had no support and was 45 . Couldn't see me successfully bringing up a disabled dd alone at that age . Partner didn't want a disabled child. I'd have been going it alone. Too many unknowns to risk it

Don't know why I'm posting really.

Just feels like a big deal letting go of my maternity clothes.

It is a big deal and we don’t have much left when they’re so tiny, not much to link us to them. I understand why it’s so hard to let anything go that proves your baby girl was here and loved.

Did she have a name?

It definitely is a big deal, I'm sorry for your loss. An incredibly difficult decision to make.

So sorry OP

Thank you.

Her name was Rosie. I chose sunflowers for her casket. She was my sunshine . I just couldn't bring her Into this world. ❤️

Thank you for replying. ❤️ that means a lot x

It's a huge step hellen. for you and Rosie 🌻

Fairy juice
Thank you ❤️.

She really meant more to me
Than anyone understands. So thank you 🙏❤️. X

Rosie is such a pretty name, how sad that you had such a difficult choice to make. I can imagine it is a huge deal to let go of the clothes.

to you and your sunshine girl 🌞

Bless you all . Thank you for
Being so kind x.

It may sound silly but maybe get them turned into a memory cushion or something similar so that you can keep the memories of her. 😊💜

I might fish them out of the charity bag but it's for breast cancer and I feel they may get put to use x
I'd like that.

I'm so sorry. You don't have to give your things away of course but I understand it must be so hard, even if you feel ready.

Thank you all.

Didn't think I was going to get any replies yesterday! So thank you all today x

Oh love, of course it feels like a big deal. It is a big deal. Thinking of you and Rosie. Life can be so unfair. X

It is a big deal a d getting rid is good for you. X

I've been brave and put the bag out.

I have a memory box for her, the hospital have it to me with a teddy the clothes might as well get some wear .
Thanks all ❣️

Lots of love to you Hellen

Well done OP, you are a strong woman. for you and your beautiful Rosie.

Hugs for you lass

hugs.

@hellenbackagen so, so sorry for your loss. My DS was born at 17w under similar circumstances. Also three years ago.

In my experience it was so difficult to let go of items that hold memories but can also be healing to tentatively move forward. I also have a memory box where I've kept a few things.

Sending you lots of love

Oh well done OP xx

for you and Rosie. I'll keep you both in my thoughts today. Xx

Love and hugs OP 💐💐💐