Baby irsowrong

[itsowrong]

So after years of trying. A previous early miscarriage and now the worst ....,, baby itsowrong was born at 28 weeks, he tried hard but after 5 hours he passed away.

So how do I support my lovely DSD and SSIL.

They're broken.

They live a 18 hour flight away. I just want to hold them as does their dad.

My title should be itsowrong, sorry,

So sorry to hear that itsowrong. Hopefully someone with proper knowledge will be along soon.

From my limited experience, being there to listen, and listen again. The little boy will have a name and will have had pictures taken so you can look at them and say how beautiful he is.

Follow their lead. Nobody knows what to do in times like these.

One of my beautiful boy twins passed away after they were delivered at 28 weeks. The first few weeks/months were a fog, but the things that meant a lot to me at the time were the people who acknowledged him, who bought us twin birth congrats cards, who weren’t afraid to say his name. There are a lot of resources, I’d recommend Still Standing
Magazine for articles (have a look on fb), Carly Marie (you can also find on fb) and also Alexandra’s Angels for keepsakes etc. Everyone is different, there are no rights or wrongs, but don’t worry by mentioning his name you will be reminding them. They will be living around the gaping hole of his loss forever. They will learn to live with it, but it will still be there. I am very lucky with friends and family that have always supported us, they always remember the anniversary and birthday etc, and that means so much. Be gentle on yourselves, I can only imagine how hard it is watching someone you love lose a child and feel so helpless to fix things.

itsowrong. And remember you need to look after yourself. Don’t be so focussed on everyone else that you forget to care for yourself. What is your sons name? Have you taken lots of photographs? A friend of mine who’s son was born sleeping took lots of pictures even though she didn’t want to. It took her a while to look at them. But now a year down the line they are so precious to her.