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One of my closest friends has died.

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ScruffbagsRUs · 09/05/2019 22:14

As the title says really. I'm feeling like I should be back in my home town helping to comfort her family, and doing everything I can for them. Our youngest DD's were in the same class throughout primary school, and part of secondary, then we moved over 500 miles from my family, as they were incredibly toxic.

My friend understood our reasons and said she would love to come over to see us, with her DH and their girls. We used to have a great time at each other's BBQ's, having a few drinks, chatting away. Now, those time will be tinged with sadness.

She died in the early hours of yesterday morning, after a long illness. She always had a smile on her face, and when she wasn't up to putting a smile on, she wouldn't see people. Her relative (who helped me move to our current town), said that her illness was kept at bay for the mean time. That was around 18 months ago. Now she's gone, and I have this maternal urge to go over and visit, and to just hold her husband and girls tight.

TBH, I'm absolutely heartbroken for them. My concern is her girls, her husband and her parents, and I just wish I could take their pain away. Or at least share their burden.

Sorry folks, I'm just itching to get back to my home town to do everything I can to try and comfort them.

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Skandinaviem · 09/05/2019 22:18

So very sorry to hear of your loss. I think at this very difficult time and such early days you should do exactly what you feel you should. Sending you lots of love.

CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 09/05/2019 22:24

Can you go? I agree with the above to do what you need to do right now.

I’m so sorry, it’s really shit. I have a friend going through the same sort of thing at the moment and I’m texting quite frequently whilst her close friends and family are there for her.

LittleRedSocks · 09/05/2019 22:26

Flowers for you 💐
And just go: your instinct is right xxx

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 09/05/2019 22:26

So sorry for your loss OP.
It's very hard losing friends.
Especially when they have young kids.
Sending hugs Thanks

ScruffbagsRUs · 10/05/2019 08:06

Thank you so much for your heartfelt messages.

CheekyFucker I'm hoping that some money we are due, will come in either later today, tomorrow or on Monday first thing. Her funeral is on Tuesday at 9am, so if the money comes in on Monday, then I'm cutting it fine to be getting over there. It'll take nearly 11hrs solid of travelling to get back to my home town, and that's if everything connects smoothly and with a small amount of time in between (ferry, trains etc). I can afford to have a couple of short delays, but any more than that, I'd be stuffed.

I don't drive, so I have to time everything has to be planned meticulously, so as to NOT miss anything.

I have to nip off now, to price the travel up, get train/ferry times etc, but thank you all so much for your kind words.

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Bluerussian · 10/05/2019 08:09

I am so sorry.

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