One year on from SIL's death

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My poor SIL died almost a year ago from secondary cancer in her liver.

My brother and his two dcs (aged 21 and 18) have done amazingly. They've put one foot in front of the other and supported each other and are, frankly, amazing.

So it'll be one year since she died in their arms in April. They are going to spend the weekend/day with sil's parents and sister, husband and dcs.

I would like to send something. Something to let them know we are thinking of them at this milestone. Milestone is the wrong word but it shows how wrong I could get it.

What can I send them?

So sorry for your family loss. Could you make them a photo album or scrapbook with memories in it? If your not crafty plenty of companies make professional ones photo box etc..?

Photo book/album is definitely a good idea. Would they appreciate a voucher to get some of you SIL clothes turned into cushions/blankets.

Not on the high street is a great website with loads of personal/ personalised gifts. You might find something on there

The first year anniversary is always hard, sometimes the days before are worse than the actual day. Do you have a couple of unseen photos of her taken at family occassions were she might be in the background?
If so i would include those in a card and actually your second sentence is perfect, words along those lines would be lovely. Keep it simple but truthful.

Thing is there are no photos at all of her in their house. I couldn't just pop some in the post - that would be a bit of a shock, I think.

What about a handwritten letter, telling them how proud their mother would be, and how much you love them all?

Doesn't have to be long or literary, but it would let them know you're there and thinking of them

It’s very hard but I like to light a candle and have a photo and some flowers to remember loved ones. Can you tell them you plan to do this for them.