I hate the phrase “heavenly birthday”

[Widowodiw]

So according to all the fb posts this morning today is my husbands heavenly birthday. I can’t stand this phrase. Why? Because it suggests to me that he’s up there with beers in his hand having a right old party. If there is a heaven he won’t be celebrating he will be having one hell of a strop because he can’t spend it with his 2 children. I know it’s a way if recognising him etc and people mourn in different ways but even the word birthday. He had his last birthday last year at the age of 38 years.

So sorry for your loss. I can't stand the phrase either, it's ridiculous.

So sorry @Widowodiw - I can't imagine how hard today must be for you. I lost the closest person to me 4 years ago and still struggle with social media. I don't understand the need to post all over Facebook in order to remember someone's birthday. I get it, but I don't like it. I sat at home and remembered them every day. The chair she used to sit in, the step she always used to trip over etc etc. Then suddenly this outpouring of love and memories on her birthday often from people who hardly knew her, claiming to be her best friend. I just ignore it now. The 'I wish I could spend the day with you' from the person who never spent a birthday with her in my life and the 'I know you'll be partying in the stars' from the person who has know idea that she was an introvert and 'reading a novel with a brew in the stars' would be more appropriate.

Hope you're okay OP.

So sorry for your loss. I agree. I think it’s ridiculous too. for you and your children. I hope you find a way to get through the day

*in their life
*no idea

So sorry for your loss.

I have never heard this. I’m not in Facebook though.

I had never heard of this either, but I also don't like it from what you have described. Sorry for your loss

I've never heard this term but now that I have I am 100% with you OP, it's awful.

I'm guessing today is going to be a difficult day for you. Take care of yourself.

I’ve never heard of this - but I suppose some people use it to make them feel better.

Sorry for your loss - I hope you do something nice today for you and the kids.

Bleurgh from me.

Jesus, it's awful, and if anyone said this about my late DH, I'd crawl over the internet and poke them in the eye with a sharp stick. (We are both atheists).

My friend used it of her own imminent death, and that was one occasion where it worked. She was an immensely devout Christian and for her death was being born into a new life in heaven. But I think it should only be used if you are 1000% sure that you won't piss off friends or relatives by using it inappropriately . . .

And I am very sorry for your loss and for the upset caused by people posting thoughtlessly xx

akerman makes an excellent point.